I’m Meg, a female member.
> “We’re a high-end dating club, you know. Show some respect.”
I don’t get that impression at all from Maezawa, who always answers with such humility.
Am I the only one who feels that way?
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Haha（笑）
You have quite a way with words（笑）
My feelings about the allowance debate so far are more or less the same as yours.
But when you think about it, the person receiving the allowance is naturally better off the higher it is. And the amount the other person can pay depends on their financial situation. So it’s obvious that people with more money have an advantage.
That said, as the other respondents have mentioned, the allowance someone wants can change depending on their mood at the time. Some people may think, “This is what I’m offering,” and be perfectly fine with it if they’re turned down.
Also, only about half the people receive offers, while some don’t receive any at all. For those people, even a lower allowance is still appreciated.
There are all kinds of opinions.
When you think, “I’m really broke,” I think you should simply ask someone who’s still willing to see you despite that. If you say, “How about this?” and they reply, “No, that won’t work,” you can just move on to the next person.
Let’s hope there are people who say, “That works for me!”（笑）
I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
I didn’t join the discussion about allowance, but I think the amount is really up to the two people involved, as long as they’re both satisfied. I don’t think the club gets involved.
There’s no such thing as being superior because you pay more. It’s not some fixed rule—it depends on how the woman you’re seeing feels about it.
Something I often wonder about is why men are so eager to decide other people’s values and rules for them. Honestly, it’s a mystery to me.
Even if you set rules like that, a woman’s feelings can change depending on her mood at the time, and her reaction can be completely different.
For example, on a previous date, I spontaneously accompanied her shopping and bought her something fairly expensive. When I was about to give her the allowance for our adult relationship (intimate), I was embarrassed to realize I didn’t have enough cash in my wallet ^^; I gave her the missing amount later, but she was visibly upset and scolded me at the time.
Yet on another day, I listened to her complain about work and treated her to various things, and she told me, “You don’t even have to give me an allowance.”
With the same girl, she was upset when I bought her an expensive gift and told her I’d pay the shortfall later, but on another occasion, simply listening to her and treating her well left her perfectly happy even without an allowance.
A generous allowance is certainly a good thing, but I think women also value satisfaction beyond money. Whether it’s ⑤ or ⑩, if the experience itself is poor, they probably won’t be happy.
Conversely, even ③ might be perfectly acceptable if the overall satisfaction is high, even if it’s only occasional.
In the end, I think the woman you’re seeing—not the man—has the real say. It depends on the relationship between both people, as well as her mood and financial circumstances.
Thinking, “It’s ⑩, so everything’s fine,” or “It’s ⑤, so everything’s fine,” may mean you’re failing to read the feelings of the woman you’re dating.
