Sorry to bother you again. I’m the person who posted, “The man I’ve been seeing for three years won’t tell me his name.” Adventurous Merchant, I haven’t received any allowance for quite some time.
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We’ve met more than 100 times, so if we had made it pay-per-meeting or a monthly arrangement, it would have amounted to a considerable sum. I was the one who suggested that doing away with the allowance would be better, since we could upgrade our dates or see each other more often.
Also, it seems people think I’m the only one who has become genuinely invested, but at first I saw him as nothing more than a wallet, while he was the one who got emotionally involved.
His feelings were so intense that I even considered ending things myself. But little by little, I found myself drawn to him because no man had ever pursued me so persistently, even when I treated him coldly.
I think the members of Universe understand better than anyone that there are as many kinds of love as there are people, and that no one can get through life being completely pure and blameless.
Everyone wants to believe, “My relationship is the most wonderful one, and it’s nothing like yours,” don’t they?
Do you think having money involved gives you a get-out-of-jail-free card? Do you think criticizing other people lets you justify yourself?
What you’re all doing is infidelity too, and from the perspective of ordinary society, it’s still abnormal and ridiculous. It’s the pot calling the kettle black.
Mac, would your relationship pass or fail by ordinary people’s standards? What score would it get?
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> I’m a female member who goes by Tulip.
> I hadn’t answered the previous question, but this one caught my attention, so I had to chime in. Sorry, of course.
I feel exactly the same way.
It’s scary.
There’s nothing but risk in giving someone your real name when you’re definitely in a no-money relationship. If this has been going on for three years, it sounds like a serious trouble case.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I think the answer can vary somewhat—or even considerably—depending on where you see yourself standing in the relationship in the first place.
I’m not saying there’s a right or wrong way to approach dating. Just follow the style you believe in, while being careful not to inconvenience the other person or cause any problems.
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I’m Kamihikōki, a male member.
Since it all starts with an allowance, the real appeal of the club is being able to fully enjoy a pseudo-romantic relationship.
The men are having a great time playing fictional versions of themselves, so if you fully commit to the role as well, you may be able to master the art of club play.
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
I feel like I should answer the question directly, but I’m sorry—I agree with Mac-san completely.
Everyone has different values when it comes to love and relationships. No one has the right to tell you what those values should be.
That said, this is a Q&A forum for dating clubs, and I believe there are certain rules when it comes to relationships through a dating club.
However, those rules can be vague and get mixed up with romantic feelings, which is why I understand that people are asking for opinions on questions like this.
In other words, my advice is based strictly on the perspective of a dating-club arrangement, not a romantic relationship. If this were an ordinary relationship problem, you could ask a friend for advice.
Please take a moment to calm down and get a second opinion from someone outside this Q&A forum. I think that may help you regain your composure.
That said, if I were to offer some gentler advice in my own way…
Whether for better or worse, the only person who can resolve your feelings is the man involved. If you’ve been holding back your wants and emotions out of consideration for him, try expressing everything you feel to him just once. You may feel relieved afterward.
Please face the situation—and him—properly at least once.
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