This is Mamiya, the Tokyo Unit Manager.
I was browsing HostLove for the first time in a while and happened to see my name there. I only just realized that Mr. Mac had specifically asked for my response. I sincerely apologize.
I’ve never taken a close look at “Mr. Barcode Baldness,” so I can’t really say for sure, but I think I somewhat understand the feeling of being okay with slight balding or an M-shaped hairline, but not wanting an Alchin-do-style bald look.
If he’s someone who can take a little teasing, I might—though it could be overstepping—recommend hair-growth products or something like Aderans. If his personality outweighs his baldness, then I think that’s all that matters.
Above all, if someone is just a physiological no-go for you, don’t force yourself into a relationship with them—whether they’re bald or not. It’s better for both of you!
I’m Meg, a female member.
Personally, hair doesn’t bother me.
But I’m not comfortable with people who breathe heavily even when they’re just talking normally.
If someone simply doesn’t appeal to you on a gut level, I think it’s best to look for someone who feels right for you.
I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
I know you were specifically looking for answers from women, but since the topic is baldness, I couldn’t resist chiming in.
If you looked at my family tree in horse-racing terms:
Father: bald
Paternal grandfather: bald
Paternal great-grandfather: bald
Maternal grandfather: bald
Maternal great-grandfather: bald
In short, I’m purebred bald—every male relative is bald. My older brother is already starting to lose his hair too. So apparently I’m destined to go bald as well.
If I grow my hair out, it gets all sweaty or wet in the rain and I end up looking like a defeated samurai, so I keep it shaved short to disguise it.
You really can’t help worrying about being “bald” in Japan, can you?
Sorry for this silly story, but I conducted a little experiment the other day.
The train was about 70% full, with plenty of seats available, so I could have sat anywhere. Then I spotted it:
“Bald, bald, empty seat, bald.”
If I sat in that empty seat, it would make four bald guys in a row—the kind of setup where, in Puyo Puyo, all the bald pieces would disappear.
I hesitated for a moment, but thought, “Might as well complete the set,” and sat down.
The sight of four bald men sitting together despite all the empty seats around us was pretty bizarre. lol
As I sat down, the two bald guys on either side glared at me as if to say, “Of all places, why here!?” So I avoided eye contact and just looked down…
I’m going bald, but I’ll never do the dreaded comb-over—it’s too embarrassing. Once it gets that far, I’ll shave my head completely.
I mean no offense to anyone with a comb-over, but my father started out that way too. After he went fully bald, he somehow became more cheerful, so I recommend the clean-shaven look. I’m not joking.
Hair-growth treatments for AGA have become popular lately, but I hope that someday in Japan, people will say, “Bald—clean-shaven—can be cool too.”
Incidentally, there are more clean-shaven bald men overseas. The professional wrestler Steve Austin was the one who once sparked a nationwide bald—clean-shaven—craze in the U.S. by showing everyone that bald could be cool.
