Thank you for your question.
I’m Kida, the representative, and I’ll answer.
I’ll explain the kinds of situations I consider to be cases of taking the money and disappearing, along with how we handle them.
Examples:
- You paid ¥200,000 upfront on the understanding that you would meet four times a month, but she became unreachable the next day.
- You agreed to go on a luxurious three-day trip with no allowance, but she canceled the day before, claiming to be ill.
Assuming situations like these, this is how we respond:
- We confirm the facts with the woman. We always do this.
“We were told by the male member that this is the situation. We shouldn’t interfere in the relationship between the two of you, but we want to do everything we can to ensure our members’ safety and peace of mind. Could you tell us what happened, to the extent you’re comfortable sharing?”
- The woman might then reply:
“After our first date, he started messaging me every ten minutes. If I didn’t reply quickly, he would send angry messages saying things like, ‘I’ll tell your school about you.’ I became scared and blocked him. What should I do? I’ll return the money.”
- The club would reply:
“I see. We’re sorry that you were made to feel frightened. However, if this continues, Mr. ○○’s feelings may escalate further. If you feel that continuing the relationship will be difficult, why not clearly explain that to him and discuss what should be done about the money? If you make a sincere attempt to resolve the matter but he continues saying things like, ‘I’ll tell your school,’ the club will intervene at that point and mediate with the man.”
That’s generally how we provide advice, with the goal of getting both parties to discuss things properly and reach some kind of resolution.
In most cases, our advice is simply: “Don’t block him—talk things through.”
- If we receive no response from the woman:
Since we cannot confirm the facts with her, we provisionally assume that the man’s account is accurate and remove her profile. She may pose a risk.
That is what I consider the best way to handle these situations.
As another example, if a woman tells a man something like, “I’m an HIV carrier,” in order to refuse an intimate relationship, we handle it in the same way.
The club cannot know what is true, but if there is a possibility of that being the case, we temporarily stop introducing the woman to members.
Also, as in the cases above, around 30% of the men who report to the club, saying, “This woman took my money!” have sent messages to the woman such as:
“If you don’t return the money, I’ll use my corporate lawyer to make sure you can never work again.”
This is extremely dangerous, so we strongly recommend that you do not send messages like that.
As far as I know, none of these cases have escalated to court. However, that is because one of the parties has paid a settlement to prevent the matter from going that far. If the situation becomes serious and damaging, it is generally the man who has more to lose.
From a social standpoint as well, if a 22-year-old university student and a 45-year-old business owner become involved in a money dispute related to prostitution, I believe the charge of blackmailing a 22-year-old university student cannot simply be ignored.
Of course, the man would also be asked to leave the club.
I’m certainly not saying that this applies to you, but it was a good question, so I wanted to give a thorough answer.
As an aside:
- You paid ¥200,000 upfront on the understanding that you would meet four times a month, but she became unreachable the next day.
→ Legally speaking, this was an oral agreement contrary to public order and morality, so it would not be recognized as a contract. Therefore, you cannot charge the woman with breach of contract or fraud.
