When arranging a date with a woman who has met male members several times before, but whom I haven’t started seeing yet, I often feel that she can only spare three hours or asks to meet for a short time. I personally spend two to three hours just being affectionate, so if we take our time over dinner, we’re nowhere near able to fit everything in.
I suppose the women decide that this amount of time should be enough and ask to meet for the minimum necessary time. When I asked one woman, she replied, “Isn’t it usually about an hour at the hotel?”
I understand that the first meeting is generally expected to last around four hours. If we take things slowly, it ends up going over, though (笑)
Depending on the situation, of course, but how long do you usually meet from the second date onward? What’s the average—how many hours for dinner, followed by how many hours afterward?
I’m Seattle, a male member.
I’m pretty much the same as BB7. I decide the length of the meetings myself.
If someone is satisfied with three hours, I’ll continue seeing her. If not, I’ll look for someone else.
There are plenty of people I’d like to make offers to, but my problem is that none of the women I’m currently seeing want to end things.
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I’m BB7, a male member in my late 40s.
This is just my personal preference, but I’m the type who likes to take things slowly and spend two or three hours at the hotel. Usually, that means one or two hours for dinner and two or three hours being intimate, so including travel and other time, we’re together for around four to five hours in total. When we’re both free on a day off, we might spend half a day having dinner and going to the hotel, or even go out and spend the whole day together. If we can only meet late at night, sometimes we’ll have dinner for about an hour, spend two hours at the hotel, and then call it a night.
If someone told me they only wanted to spend an hour at the hotel, I’d consider us incompatible and wouldn’t continue seeing them. As for the allowance, some people are fine with the same amount regardless of how many hours we spend together, while others think of it as an hourly rate.
Just sharing for reference.
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