I fancied myself a proper middle-aged playboy at an exclusive dating club, but after moving on to “married singles mixers” as my next field, I’ve somehow lost every single battle. Is this really all I’m worth without money to back me up…? I’m embarrassed to admit that it’s taken quite a toll on me mentally. Should I retreat with my tail between my legs?

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. I don’t think you have to be too disappointed. I’m middle-aged too—or maybe I should say elderly by now—and I’m in much the same boat. A female member once told me, “I don’t find you attractive as a man.” I was extremely confident in my appeal as a man (I still am（笑）), so I thought, “She must be joking…” But in reality, she wasn’t joking at all (tears). Your own opinion of yourself and how others see you don’t always match. Well, that’s the difference between ideals and reality（笑）. I believe all you can do is honestly accept the situation and start over from there, so that’s what I’m doing my best to do. The final decision is yours. Please think it over carefully before deciding.