You’re allowed to turn down an offer. Women can say no in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), too.
However, if you’re going to decline at the offer stage, it’s probably best to explain your reason to the club. Otherwise, it could hurt the club’s impression of you and possibly affect the comments they leave on your profile.
For example, you could say that you’d rather not proceed because you work in the same industry.
Turning down one offer won’t make the offers stop coming. But if you repeatedly cancel at the last minute, you could be removed from the club or receive lower ratings, which might lead to fewer offers…
Rather than declining based only on the initial impression, why not mark it as “C,” meet him first, and then decide?
Instead of narrowing your possibilities yourself, it may be better to meet, discuss the terms of the arrangement, and decline only after that if it doesn’t feel right.
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I’ve been registered for almost a year, and two women have turned me down.
Of the two, the staff told me why one declined, while the other apparently left the message on read and never even replied to the club.
Of course, I understand that female members can turn someone down too, but at first, realizing that I could actually be rejected hit me harder than expected（笑）
Especially since they turned me down without even meeting me.
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I’ve been turned down before.
- Our schedules don’t work.
- I’m putting offers on hold for now.
They may not be the real reasons, but I don’t press them any further.
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If you don’t want to meet someone or have a reason for turning them down, I think it’s perfectly fine to decline.
Your profile probably lets you state some preferences, such as the meeting location, smoking, body type, age, and distance.
Other than those factors, you won’t know much about a man until you meet him, so I don’t really see a reason not to accept.
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Why do you want to turn it down?
I’m sure you have a reason, and I think the impact will depend on what that reason is.
As long as the staff find your reason reasonable, I don’t think it will affect future offers.
For example, if it’s because of his age, you may stop receiving offers from men of that age or older. (It will be noted in your profile.)
In short: it’s okay to decline.
However, if you don’t have a valid reason, they may wonder, “Then why did you register in the first place?”
So I suggest thinking carefully about whether your reason is reasonable, and then declining while explaining it.
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I get turned down fairly often too.
Until recently, I was looking for a new woman to date, and even then, several women turned me down.
It’s perfectly fine to turn someone down. Regardless of what the dating club decides, I think you should participate in a way that feels right to you.
It’s okay if you don’t receive many offers. If you can maintain an arrangement, it’s essentially the same as occasionally receiving steady offers.
Relationships through a dating club are generally very high-level, but I think it’s best to focus on building something ongoing.
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Yes, sometimes they turn me down.
These days, I usually specify a busy entertainment district near my home, so women who find it inconvenient to come there often decline my offer.
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