I’ve been registered for less than a month, so I’m still a beginner.
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The first woman I met (C-type) was wonderful, and we had an adult relationship on our first meeting.
Would it be rude to go straight to a hotel for an adult relationship the second time we meet? If we have dinner first and then go to a hotel, I worry that the long time commitment might be a burden for her. I feel she might actually prefer going straight to the hotel, spending less time together, and wrapping things up quickly.
Am I overthinking this?
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When you meet for the second time, try asking:
“Are you hungry?”
“Where would you like to go?”
This lets you spend the time in a way that suits her. You can probably tell from her reaction if she only wants to go to a hotel.
Some girls will say they’re hungry and take you somewhere they want to go. Others will say they’re not hungry or “anywhere is fine,” and, after you ask a few more questions, may end up stopping by a convenience store before heading to a hotel.
I think the man should simply follow the girl’s wishes. If she has places she wants to go or things she wants to do even on her own, you can act as her sponsor. But if she isn’t that type, it’s also important to consider time efficiency.
Keep in mind that women may feel unable to give anything but positive answers, so you need to be very considerate in how you ask questions—ideally in a way that also draws out what she actually wants, even if it’s the opposite.
For C-type arrangements, I think many women ideally want the whole meeting—including dinner and the hotel—to last around an hour and a half to two and a half hours. Depending on the meal or date, three to four hours can sometimes be just right.
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You say it’s “a burden for women,” but it simply sounds like you don’t want to waste money on meals and want to use her as a substitute for a sex worker.
After the second meeting, you’re free to do as you please, but it’s obvious that you’re trying to act based solely on your own preferences without considering the other person.
No matter what answers you get here, there’s no guarantee they reflect what the woman you’re seeing actually thinks. In other words, nothing will be resolved.
And even if you ask her directly, if you say, “It’s okay to go straight to a hotel next time, right?” most women would probably feel unable to say no, even if they didn’t like the idea.
With that in mind, I think it’s safest to follow the same pattern as the first time: have a meal and then go to a hotel.
If she says she’d rather go straight to a hotel because dining would be a waste of time, then that simply means you’re on the same page.
But if you prefer women who say things like, “I want to go straight to a hotel,” or “I only want to spend up to 40 minutes at the hotel,” like a delivery sex worker, then I wonder whether there’s any need to meet them through Universe in the first place.
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You sound like a considerate person.
I’ve been a member for almost a year now, and back then I agonized over how to approach the second meeting too (lol).
I’d prefer to focus on the adult relationship (intimate) without a meal, but it might be best to confirm beforehand.
For me, it depends on the time of day:
- If it’s in the morning, we’ll stop by a café after leaving the hotel.
- If it’s before noon, I’ll get takeout and we’ll eat at the hotel.
- If it’s around snack time, I’ll buy some cake and take it to the hotel.
- If it’s in the evening, I’ll pick up food from a department-store basement or somewhere similar. If we’re staying overnight, we might order delivery for dinner and have McDonald’s for breakfast.
You don’t often get the chance to eat with a woman while keeping your penis erect, after all (lol).
There are plenty of ways to go about it, and I’ve never been turned down when I suggested takeout, so that might be worth proposing.
Of course, you should be considerate, but don’t worry too much about keeping it short.
Most importantly, you should enjoy yourself too (lol).
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If it were me, I’d ask her what she’s thinking and tailor things to what she wants.
Some women want to leave quickly, while others don’t like it to feel like it’s just about getting intimate—they want to have a proper meal together too.
That’s based on my experience with my past monthly arrangements.
Even when it comes to dining together, some women want to keep it within four hours, while others don’t mind if it runs a little longer—because they’re having fun, or they’re fine with taking their time over a high-end course meal, for example.
I’d watch their reactions and figure out what they preferred.
Some women only want to meet in a private room, while others are happy to go out if it’s a good or upscale restaurant. If they wanted to go, I’d take them.
I think the key to making things last is maintaining good communication.
You might assume that keeping her there for a certain amount of time would be a burden, but she may feel differently. So pay close attention to her preferences. In my case, I simply ask her.
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From the second meeting onward, I made the hotel the first stop. When I explained that it can be uncomfortable after a full meal, they were 100% on board.
After that, I ask what they prefer and go from there. If dinner is included, it’s usually no more than three hours total.
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Wouldn’t it depend on the circumstances?
Even just going to a hotel might feel like a burden, while you might genuinely enjoy spending time over a meal.
Have you considered offering an allowance for the time spent dining as well?
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It’s clear that you’re being very thoughtful and considerate toward her, and I think that’s wonderful.
First of all, when a C-type woman enters into an adult relationship (intimate) from the very first meeting, in most cases it means she chose to do so because she likes you as well. So I don’t think meeting for the second time makes it rude or inappropriate. You probably don’t need to worry about it too much.
That said, speaking only from my personal perspective, I’m not particularly fond of going straight to a hotel every time from the second meeting onward. However, it really depends on the woman. Some prefer to keep things brief and straightforward, while others feel more comfortable having a little conversation first. Neither approach is inherently right or wrong.
I also think it’s very considerate of you to be mindful of how long she’ll be tied up, but having a meal isn’t necessarily a burden. In fact, if she likes you, many women would enjoy spending that time together as well.
So if you’re unsure, I think the best thing to do is simply ask her. Just casually saying, “What kind of flow would you prefer next time?” should be enough. I doubt many women would find that rude; if anything, most would probably feel that you’re being considerate of their feelings.
As for whether you’re overthinking it, perhaps a little—but that also means you’re sincere and thoughtful. To find a comfortable distance with her, don’t hesitate to ask her honestly.
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