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Dec 29, 2025 10:05
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🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
For birthdays and gifts, you should ask the woman what she wants most and give her that.
I don’t think a surprise from an older man she doesn’t even like would make her happy at all.
What women really think is probably: “If you’re going to surprise me, just give me the money.”
So Fuu takes the opposite approach and doesn’t do anything unnecessary. I don’t give birthday presents or plan surprises. I leave that to their boyfriends or generous (well-paying) papas, haha.
I simply avoid taking them out on important event days whenever possible and stick to straightforward, no-pressure papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
I might arrange a small birthday celebration during a meal on a date in their birthday month, though...
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Recently, I gave her cash to cover cosmetic surgery. I think it was about ¥800,000.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I think surprises are for people who are confident the other person will be happy with them.
If you’re not confident, I think it’s better to ask them. But if you do, make sure to clearly state your budget, for example: “Is there anything you’d like that costs under ¥100,000?”
Otherwise, if they name something expensive, you’ll end up having to either buy it even though you can’t really afford it or disappoint them.
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🏅 デート開拓者
ユニバース5年目。女性とはいろいろな商業施設に行ってデートしています。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
If you’re not sure, I don’t think you should make it a surprise.
1. Ask her directly.
2. Go to a shopping mall and shop together.
3. Give her a gift card (you’ll find plenty of options online).
When you don’t know each other very well, option 3 is convenient because she can use it however she likes—or even convert it to cash.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
If you’re unsure, it’s best to ask her directly. But if you’re going to look for something, I think a surprise is definitely better—and more likely to make her happy.
That said, surprises won’t be appreciated if you get them wrong…
Update:
Before that, I think you need to figure out:
Is she the type of woman who enjoys surprises?
Or is she happier receiving cash?
That’s where it starts.