What would you do if someone you were dating had a strong underarm or intimate odor?

You don’t need to give her any money. Just tell her. Say it kindly.

The physical traits of someone you’re dating can be an extremely sensitive and difficult subject to bring up. Although feeling clean is important for maintaining a relationship, it also touches on the other person’s dignity, so how you handle it can affect the future of the relationship itself. First, silently putting up with it and continuing the relationship may seem kind, but in many cases it gradually wears you down. Tolerance may be possible while your feelings are strong, but over time, your discomfort and distress tend to build up, and the relationship often ends up breaking down eventually. Does that mean you should be honest with them? That truly depends on how much trust there is between you. Anyone would be deeply hurt if their body odor were pointed out, and it’s certainly possible to damage the relationship if you choose the wrong words or timing. However, if you approach the subject thoughtfully, some people may take it positively—as a desire to discuss the issue because you want to stay with them for a long time. If you’re not in a financial position to suggest medical treatment, and you’re afraid that choosing another option would hurt them, deciding that “neither of us is at fault, but continuing isn’t possible for us as a matter of compatibility” can also be an honest choice in an adult relationship. Body odor is especially difficult to address because it is largely related to an inborn physical constitution, separate from someone’s personality or efforts. You have absolutely no reason to blame yourself. Since every option—putting up with it, bringing it up, or walking away—has both benefits and risks, none of those choices is inherently wrong. What matters most is that you don’t let this break you down emotionally. Please don’t force yourself to keep enduring it, and choose based on your own peace of mind and sense of security.

It does happen with women sometimes. If it’s mild, I’ll put up with it the first time. A slight scent can even be a little arousing, but if it’s strong and unpleasant, I just can’t. In that case, there won’t be a next time—we simply part ways without saying anything. One woman had a body-odor issue, and another had a really strong intimate odor. The latter was honestly so bad that even after washing and washing, the smell wouldn’t come off my fingers after fingering her. It completely killed the mood, so I gave up on intercourse, lol.

There was a time when, as part of a project, we filmed men on dates and had female staff point out areas for improvement. In the feedback we received after one past date, a woman said she was bothered because the man wouldn’t wash himself before they got intimate. Even though the feedback was specifically about him, when the staff member told him, he seemed to think, “What’s the big deal?” He probably continued being intimate without washing beforehand even after that. Some women may not mind, but I think more women would prefer their partner to wash before getting intimate. This example isn’t directly related to the current situation, but I don’t think men are likely to change that easily. In that case, there’s no point in saying anything, and it would be a shame if bringing it up led him to think, “That woman is so…” instead. If you can’t put up with it, I recommend ending things as they are.

Haha, yeah. In my case, I’d probably say, “Maybe I should have it treated?” It’s fine during the winter, but once summer comes around, almost everyone has it taken care of, haha.