My partner used to finish quickly, but lately it’s been taking him longer… Does that mean he isn’t enjoying it??

Unfortunately, men do get bored. Genetically speaking, it lasts up to three years, or two years on average. Men are wired to spread their genes among as many women as possible, so their brains are wired to feel rewarded when they’re with someone else. You may need to switch things up—change the setting, try different approaches, and so on. Maybe the reasons are things like: - You don’t feel as tight anymore - It’s always the same, so he’s bored - There are other women who feel better to him I don’t dislike it when a woman takes the initiative, but if she’s always too aggressive, that can be a turnoff too. Finding the right balance is difficult. For example, someone who’s usually quiet suddenly becoming seductive, or saying, “I’m taking the lead today,” and turning the tables out of nowhere. But if there’s no shyness or modesty, I lose interest too. It’s all about the contrast, haha. If you’ve become looser and things are starting to feel the same with your other papas too, there are medical procedures where hyaluronic acid is injected there to improve tightness—if you have the money. There’s even a sponsored YouTube video by Yua Mikami, haha. Apparently, she used to work at a high-end soapland.

How long have you two been seeing each other? From the man’s perspective, what matters more is the woman’s reaction and how satisfied she is. Has your level of satisfaction been increasing? If it’s been six months or a year, then judging from the wording alone, it’s possible that he’s no longer enjoying it as much. As six months, a year, or even two years pass, some relationships and chemistry continue to improve, with both partners enjoying themselves more and more. On the other hand, there are also relationships where the peak is during the first few dates, months, or up to six months. From the man’s perspective, another important point is whether your satisfaction has been increasing over time. A man who wants to make a woman happy may also care about whether her pleasure and enjoyment are growing, and whether the relationship is becoming more special to her. Being able to sense that day by day can also affect how emotionally invested and excited he feels.

Unless three or five years have passed, if he was originally a premature ejaculator, it probably wasn’t very enjoyable, was it? Perhaps he’s now relaxed enough to enjoy sex. I’d definitely welcome him moving his hips. If there’s no response, it’s a turn-off.

“Lately, he’s been taking longer to finish.” I think about 90% of men have this strange mindset that finishing quickly means they’ve lost, so if anything, he may be thinking, “I’m managing to control myself—good for me.” Also, at the beginning, he may not have had a monthly arrangement and may have been rather pent-up, which could be why he finished fairly quickly. But now that he’s seeing you more often and doesn’t have much time to build up, it’s only natural that he would need a certain amount of time. There could be other factors too. For example, he may now have another woman and is also finishing with her, so he doesn’t have much time to build up. There may even be people—not necessarily at an introduction club—who intentionally finish on their own before meeting someone so they can last longer. “I’m worried that maybe something happened.” You can tell whether he has finished elsewhere by looking at the amount of semen afterward. However, with older men, the amount can also vary depending on their physical condition, so it’s not an absolute indicator. If you regularly keep track of the usual amount, you may start to notice these things. Of course, I don’t think there’s any need—or point—in telling him that. Still, keeping track may help you understand what’s going on. “What do you think about my hips moving involuntarily?” I think it probably feels better for men that way. If his body moves without him realizing it, he may be enjoying himself that much. From a man’s perspective, that seems much better than being with a woman who appears not to feel anything at all. If we’re only talking about the movement itself, men may find it more pleasurable when their partner moves. But I don’t think many men at introduction clubs expect women to do that much, so I don’t think you need to worry about it too much.