I only recently started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and I’ve been trying it at B1, but after meeting a few people, I’m starting to feel that an adult relationship (intimate) really isn’t for me.
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There’s someone I told I’d meet for dinner only (no intimacy) for now, and that maybe, if I felt ready, we could consider moving forward in two or three months. But honestly, I’m beginning to think I probably won’t be able to.
Would it be wrong to keep meeting for now when I have no intention of taking things further?
It’s not that he said, “We have to become intimate.” It was more like, “If you’re open to it, maybe in about three months…”
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You’re very honest and seem like a good person, questioner. Thanks for sharing how you really feel.
I think most women keep accepting their allowance while secretly having no intention of going further, dangling the possibility in front of the men.
Cabaret hostesses and snack bar mamas use the same technique to get money out of people, don’t they? lol
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I think you should switch to Type A.
To avoid seeming disrespectful to the person you’re currently seeing, let him know as soon as possible that you’ve changed to Type A.
Rather than saying, “An adult relationship is difficult for me,” you could say something like: “After giving it some thought, I’ve decided to switch to Type A. If it would be difficult for you to continue seeing me, please feel free to quietly fade out.” That way, no one gets hurt.
Hearing “An adult relationship is difficult” can make someone feel personally rejected. But switching to Type A means you’re not open to an adult relationship with anyone, so the men you contact won’t have to take it personally.
The important thing is to contact them yourself. Since you registered as Type B1 in the first place, you should take responsibility for sorting things out yourself.
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I think that’s a perfectly fine stance to take.
I make offers with the understanding that women who choose B1 are generally looking for that kind of arrangement. Personally, if I get the feeling during the first meeting or second date that things are going to drag on, I simply fade out. But women who choose B1 aren’t doing anything wrong.
That said, with someone you feel you’ll never be able to move forward with, stringing them along by giving mixed signals could lead to trouble or unpleasant feelings later on. So I think it’s better to handle things on a case-by-case basis.
Hope that helps.
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> After meeting with a few people, I’m starting to feel that an adult relationship (intimate) just isn’t for me.
If by “difficult” you mean that you haven’t clicked with the people you’ve met, I don’t think that’s a problem. If you generally don’t want anything beyond dinner through the club, then your dating type is A.
> Is it a bad idea to keep meeting someone for the time being even though I’m not interested?
I think it’s better to turn them down. It’s not an absolute rule, but it could lead to trouble.
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When making an offer to someone with a B1 profile, I’m already open to situations like yours, as well as women who lean more toward type A.
If anything, I may actually prefer women who are closer to type A rather than type C.
There are women and men who don’t want someone interested only in their body or allowance, so I think it’s best to continue seeing men whose outlook and values align with yours.
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> Is it bad to keep seeing someone for the time being when I have no intention of taking things further?
I don’t think it’s right to keep seeing them without telling them how you feel. However, it also depends on whether you feel it’s impossible with that particular person, or with anyone.
If you feel it’s impossible with that person, then B1 would be the appropriate choice.
But if you feel it would be impossible with anyone, then it’s A.
If you think it’s A, you should tell them that and let them decide what to do. You should also change your profile with the club.
If you still feel the same way as in B1, but simply don’t think things will work with the person you met, I think it would be best to tell them, “Even if we continue seeing each other, I don’t think an intimate relationship would be possible,” and let them decide.
If you think your feelings might change in two or three months, then I don’t think you need to say anything.
However, most women can tell the moment they meet someone whether or not things could work with that person. So if that’s how you feel now, I suspect you’ll still feel the same way after two or three months.
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