A question for both men and women:

Since it depends on the papa (male supporter), it’s difficult to say there’s one fixed way to do things. Speaking only for myself, I continue seeing various people—around ten in total—while considering the timing and how we communicate. I also really enjoy meeting new people at first meetings, so I get opportunities to meet someone new every month. There is some turnover among the ten, but usually around five of them continue each month. Sometimes the women are the ones who drift away. This may sound a little creepy, but I only decide whether to add someone to my group of ten after having an adult relationship (intimate). So even if I really like someone at the first meeting, I can easily fade out after the second date. In fact, just the other day, I really liked someone at our first meeting, but ended things the very next day. I personally feel that the women who continue for a long time are the ones who can naturally make me want to see them again right up until we part ways—but I realize that may just be me being selfish. This may not directly answer your question, but I think things can continue for a long time if you’re able to make the other person feel comfortable both when you’re together and when you’re apart. I hope this helps.

There could be so many reasons for ending things that it would be difficult to guess which one applies to your papa (a male supporter). His family or home situation, work, health, motivation, getting bored, finding another woman he likes better—there are just too many possibilities.

I understand wanting to know so you can prevent it in advance, but while that may seem like a genuine concern, it really depends on the individual man, so asking here probably won’t help much. For example, some men might decide not to meet again just because you have a single blemish. You can’t know someone else’s standards. Instead, focus on what kind of woman he’s looking for and what kind of woman he likes. As you talk, you’ll gradually get a better sense of that, and then you can adjust your behavior accordingly. That said, changing yourself can also be stressful, so don’t overdo it. If it feels impossible, you’ll have a much easier time if you’re willing to look for someone else.

In my case, I rank my regular partners. It’s basically a pecking order. Women around seventh to tenth place are the ones most likely to be replaced. If a great new woman comes along, the lower-ranked regulars will more or less automatically be let go. It sounds pretty heartless, but without some turnover, new women wouldn’t stand a chance. And if a better papa comes along for one of the women, she’ll drop me too. I suppose that’s just the natural order of things. As for your favorite papa, it’s great that you’ve found someone special. All you can really do is keep up the obvious things anyone would think of—kiss him lots, message him more often on LINE, and so on. As long as your favorite papa sees you as a “good-value PJ,” he won’t let you go. But if he starts thinking you’re not worth the effort, he probably will. You just have to keep trying. The easiest way to make an effort might be to become a “sexy girl.” Men don’t let sexy women go easily because they’re hard to find. You could sneak in a little touch during a date somewhere other than his room, or kiss him when the two of you are alone in an elevator. Us older guys are pretty simple, after all.

When I mentioned the prank posts, a flood of suspiciously similar posts suddenly started appearing, didn’t they? I’ve never wanted to break things off. When I start noticing my partner letting their guard down, I do lose some motivation to continue the relationship—but it’s not that I want to end it. When something about their lack of caution bothers me, I tell them.