I’m new to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and am still deciding whether to start. Do you have to become physically intimate with your papa (a male supporter)? I’m a little scared of the idea of that.

You don’t necessarily have to become intimate, but it’s important to offer something else in return for receiving an allowance. No one is going to give money to someone who brings nothing to the table. For most people, if all they want is to have dinner with a young woman, they can simply treat someone from work and get the same thing. Being beautiful is a given, so I think you can do dinner only (no intimacy) if you have something extra to offer. For example, having a rare profession, such as being a TV announcer...

How to get an allowance without having an intimate relationship There’s a lot of competition. Fuu can find women who’ll go out for meals or drinks without being given an allowance, so the reason members join this club is that they can have intimate relationships with younger women. If you’re not looking for an intimate relationship, you could first try working at a concept café, girls’ bar, hostess club, or going out drinking with clients. If you have the talent and can compete on your own, you could then try a dating club or papa-katsu app. It’s difficult, though. It might be quickest to give it a try here and see whether you can have an intimate relationship. Among papa-katsu options, this is probably the least risky and gives you the best odds. Of course, you’re responsible for your own choices, and you might run into a person to avoid, but it’s still better than an app.

I think you should go with Type A, but I don’t think you’ll get any offers unless you’re an S-rank beauty. I often make offers to Type A women, and every one of them has been an S-rank beauty. Sorry for putting it so bluntly, but I’m sometimes genuinely puzzled by how many women register as Type A even though they can’t exactly be called stunning. I find myself wondering, “What’s their strategy?” A new monthly arrangement partner came along for the first time in ages, and she’s Type A. She’s cute, not jaded, and incredibly fun to be around. We’ve only met a few times, but she recently said, “I’d like to come stay at your place,” and I replied, “Obviously not!” Though secretly, I’m thinking, “Please do♪” I’m not going to make a move on her, though.

If you were to join Universe Club, I imagine you’d choose Relationship Type A… There are certainly women at the club who have selected Type A, and I’m sure some of them are doing well. That said, I think you’d still need to make an effort to become someone he’d want to keep meeting—even if it’s dinner only (no intimacy).

Rather than being bound by the concept of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I think it would be better to focus on what you actually want to do and explore what you can do to achieve it. I assume you want money but don’t want a physical relationship. For example, with oshikatsu—supporting your favorite creator or celebrity—it seems possible to receive support without having an intimate relationship. That said, people generally won’t support you if you do nothing, so there has to be something you do that makes them want to support you. Singing or playing an instrument seem to be the most common ways, but streamers sometimes gain support even without singing. If you study those examples and think about how you could get people to support you, it may be possible to earn money without becoming physically involved. However, that’s extremely difficult. You may not have that kind of talent, but you might be able to form a relationship like a romantic couple. Some people seem to think that if you’re dating someone, you’ll go on dates—and naturally become physically intimate as well. What you choose to do is up to you. But if you feel scared, you probably shouldn’t do it. Starting before you’re truly comfortable with it will only lead to regret. I think it’s better to wait until you’re completely comfortable and feel that it could actually be a positive life experience, with more benefits than drawbacks.

I don’t think someone who’s still unsure about starting can even be called a beginner. You don’t have to have an intimate relationship. However, keeping someone interested without going that far generally takes some skill, and I think the risk of disagreements tends to be higher. If you’re scared, I think it’s better not to do it.