When doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), is it better to give your papa (a male supporter) the impression that you don’t have a boyfriend, even if you actually do?
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Also, do you think papas prefer it if you don’t mention your past boyfriends, friends-with-benefits, or dating history? If pretending to be a virgin or saying you only had one boyfriend back in middle school is better, please let me know.
Isn’t that impossible if you’re going to stay together for a long time? Can you really keep up the act forever?
And a papa who says, “Don’t get a boyfriend. Don’t see any other papas. Be mine only”—he’s probably trouble, right? They’re likely to misunderstand things and develop serious feelings. Scary!
Personally, Fuu would rather date ordinary college students, office workers, or housewives who aren’t polished professionals like sex workers or hostesses. So I actually find it easier when they’re upfront and say they have a boyfriend, friends with benefits, or other papas.
In my initial offer, I tell them, “I’ll support you so things go well with your boyfriend and other papas.”
In fact, two of my regulars got married, left Fuu, and moved on! They even message me on LINE saying they’ve had a baby, lol.
I’ll also give them tips like, “Men will be happy—and get hooked—if you do this during sex” (which makes Fuu happy too, lol). Like occasionally putting your arms around his waist during missionary, kissing his neck now and then, or sometimes saying, “You’re so hard,” “That feels so good,” and so on. Sometimes I’m the only one enjoying it, though, lol.
If you can keep deceiving them with an actress-level performance, then I suppose you can set those terms. But I think it’s fine to simply say you have a boyfriend. It might help discourage them from developing serious feelings.
As for your number of sexual partners or friends with benefits, it might be better to judge the person before bringing it up. There seem to be quite a few people asking about that, so don’t be surprised if they’re put off, lol.
The number of partners women claim to have had is probably actually two to ten times higher, right?
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Yes, I think that would be well received.
From what I’ve heard from female members, there seem to be quite a few men who only want women with that kind of profile, haha.
Personally, I ask right from the first meeting whether they have a boyfriend or not, and if someone comes in saying she’s a virgin or has almost no experience, I end the meeting immediately. There have been a few who genuinely had very little experience, but in those cases there was usually a reason, such as simply having been with the same boyfriend for a long time.
Regardless of the questioner’s situation, I really dislike liars, so personally, they’re the type I’d want to avoid most. But if you’re asking whether that kind of profile is well received, I think it could work.
Hope this helps.
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I definitely prefer girls who are upfront about having a boyfriend, and I also want them to tell me if they have other papas.
I’m not looking for romance. I believe papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is about supporting a girl’s life as a whole, so I always tell them to keep using Universe Club.
I actually enjoy listening to them complain about their boyfriends.
It’s papa-katsu, after all—not boyfriend-katsu.
One of my monthly arrangement girls is a virgin, but I’m encouraging her to find a boyfriend. If she absolutely insists on losing her virginity with me, I’ll ask her “Are you really sure I’m the one you want?” about a hundred million times before becoming her first partner.
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Everyone has different preferences, so it’s not necessarily better to present yourself as single.
There are plenty of men who don’t mind if you have a boyfriend.
If you say you don’t have a boyfriend but actually do, they may see you as a liar and suspect that you’re lying about other things too. They might even decide it’s better not to see you again.
So I think it’s important to figure out what kind of woman the other person is looking for.
Rather than worrying about what story to use, think about what kind of woman the man wants—and what you can do to become that kind of woman.
That’s probably the direction you should focus on.
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Meeting just once might be fine, but the longer you keep seeing each other, the more your inconsistencies will show.
It may be a troll post, but claiming to be a virgin will probably be exposed immediately.
As others have said, once a lie is discovered, it will most likely be over. You’d be better off not saying anything for now.
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Anything is fine as long as you’re not pretending to be emotionally troubled.
Ultimately, it comes down to whether you’re genuinely open to a relationship.
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It’s better to say you don’t have a boyfriend and don’t have much dating experience. Claiming to be a virgin is taking it too far.
Some people do like virgins, but at the same time, there’s an image that they can be difficult to “break in.”
Either way, if you’re going to date someone under a certain pretense, it’s essential to make sure you never get caught.
If you do have a boyfriend, you’re done for if you give off the impression that, deep down, you really don’t want to sleep with a papa (a male supporter).
If you have a lot of dating experience, you may also give yourself away by how you act in a hotel.
By the way, when a normal man finds out, he’ll usually just leave without saying anything.
You’re not really my type, but good luck with your activities.
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Men all have their own preferences, so there’s no one-size-fits-all answer for how you should pretend to be.
Personally, I don’t like people with little experience. They’re not interesting and tend to be more trouble than they’re worth.
I also don’t like people who have a habit of lying—they’re too much work. I make a point of staying away from anyone who lies about even the smallest things.
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