The papa (a male supporter) I went on a second adult relationship (intimate) date with put 80,000 yen in an envelope, including transportation.

Would someone really go through something that risky and troublesome? I feel like you probably mistook a 7 from the start. Something similar happened to me—I suspected money had been taken from my wallet, but I couldn’t say anything because I had no proof. It still bothers me, but there’s nothing I can do. These days, even if I become friendly with someone, I take my bag with me into the changing room every time. From now on, I think you should take your bag into the changing room too, just to prevent anything unnecessary from happening.

What do you think? It seems like there was only 70,000 yen in it from the very beginning... For now, don’t bring that up. Instead, try saying with a smile: “Thank you for always putting the allowance in an envelope so carefully. You don’t have to put it in an envelope from next time.” If he’s giving you a 70,000-yen allowance, you’d probably want to keep seeing him. Keep looking for other options too, and good luck.

Allowances can cause trouble, so I always make sure they confirm receiving them. When I’m giving 80,000 yen, I’ll go into the room and place four bills and four bills slightly offset on a desk or something similar—or sometimes arrange them in a cross. I’ll also say something on the way out, like, “Is the allowance safely in your bag? I’ve heard some papas take it back.” I’ve said things like that many times. Anyway, it’s been a while since I entered the world of “going rates” for allowances, but I still have no idea how to navigate it. Sometimes I get depressed thinking maybe I was only popular because I was flashing stacks of cash. Papa-katsu is deep. For starters, my monthly-arrangement girls are all so beautiful and unbeatable that even if I offered the same allowance as I give them, there’s a 2,000% chance it would end after one meeting. So I’ve tried offering the going rate, thinking maybe something cheaper would continue, but nothing ever lasts. What is going on? This is insanely difficult. If I could meet someone four times a month at the going rate, that would be great, but my sperm factory’s performance has declined, so I’m not really motivated to do that often. Lately, I’ve been leaning more toward “the depth of the relationship.” No matter how perfect a new girl’s face is or how amazing her body is, I don’t feel anything like the excitement I get when meeting my monthly-arrangement girls with whom I’ve built a deeper connection. So maybe it doesn’t matter whether the allowance is 50,000, 80,000, or 120,000 yen—once she’s a “new girl,” it’s already a no-go… Can someone help me? I can’t imagine a newcomer becoming a monthly arrangement.

Have you started looking for mistakes this time? If you haven’t checked the contents of the envelope, how do you know how much your partner put in it? What you should do is for each person to decide for themselves.

It really comes down to whether you can be satisfied with the arrangement. Since you mention feeling uneasy at the end of your post, though, I feel it may be difficult to sustain in the long run. Until you find someone better, I think it’s fine to keep him as an option.

Was the full 8 in there the first time? If it was 8 the first time and 7 the second, he may be testing how much he can reduce it without you saying anything. Next time, it might only be 6. I agree that checking it right there isn’t ideal, but considering that it could keep decreasing by 1 each time, I think you should check at some point. Of course, checking could mean he stops inviting you, but if there’s a chance he’s deliberately reducing it, I think it’s better to confirm eventually. I can’t think of a perfect way, but maybe when you receive the envelope, you could intentionally drop it so the contents spill out, then casually count the bills as you pick them up. Something like that, perhaps.