If a premarital background check reveals that your prospective spouse’s sister is registered with a dating club and engaged in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), is it highly likely that the marriage would be called off?

It probably depends on the circumstances. The longer the time between quitting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and the investigation, the less likely it is that you’ll be found out. Apparently, the most common way people get exposed is when they’ve told friends or acquaintances about doing papa-katsu, and an investigator discovers it by questioning people in their social circle. Other than that, they’d have to rely on surveillance or behavioral investigations. So if you’re still doing papa-katsu during the investigation, you may be found out, but it’s probably harder for them to uncover something from the past.

> The prospective spouse’s sisters Normally, I don’t think the sisters would have anything to do with it, and whether their father is involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) shouldn’t matter either. In the first place, I imagine that anyone conducting that kind of investigation would be someone who places great importance on family background—perhaps someone from a family whose lineage can be traced back hundreds of years. There probably aren’t many people like that, so I don’t think you need to worry about it that much. I don’t recall hearing of anything quite that extreme.

Leaving today’s younger generation aside, in my generation there was still a strong belief that marriage joined two families. When I was around 30, if I had found out that the sister of the person I was planning to marry was involved in something like papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I probably would have called off the engagement. If you hired a private investigator to conduct a pre-marriage background check, they would investigate not only the person themselves but also their family. So, if there were no budget limit, the sister’s papa-katsu would naturally be uncovered.

If there were no upper limit, I can see how it might make sense, but not many people seem able or willing to put in that much time, effort, and money. If you can’t accept those kinds of risks, get a job and save up the money.

If there’s no upper limit to the money being spent, I think it’ll lead back to you. In other words, you’ll get found out. It’s even more likely to come to light if you’re registered with several dating clubs. They’ll also find out that you’re doing paid social drinking. I know several women who’ve been exposed. Information like “a woman you can get with if you pay” spreads easily. That’s because there are only so many wealthy men, and information circulates among them. Wealthy men separate the women they have fun with from the ones they seriously pursue. The women who can become someone’s true partner are the ones who aren’t motivated by money—in other words, women who aren’t doing paid social drinking or registered with dating clubs. Women whose names don’t appear on an attender’s list. Update: There’s more to the A-type woman I mentioned yesterday—apparently, she wants to date me. But I don’t trust her, lol. Update 2: > If you’re going to turn her down without dating her anyway, don’t you feel a little bad for her? It’s not so much that I feel bad for the person in front of me—I feel bad for everyone, including the ace, and that’s why I can’t choose just one of them. If I choose one, they’ll all fall apart. Some of them might even break down crying. They all depend on me to get by. I know I’m repeating myself, but they aren’t in love with me. If they were, I might give it a little more thought.