The papa I’ve been seeing told me that he doesn’t want papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—he wants a romantic relationship instead. He said that when there’s an allowance involved, he starts to lose interest or get tired of things over the smallest issues.

Dreaming is dangerous—men are so simple and stupid. That said, I’m in my sixth year of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) myself. I’ll be starting my seventh year after my next renewal, I guess? I recently confessed my feelings seriously for the first time, only to get blocked afterward, so I’ve experienced regret firsthand. It’s hard to say, lol. Even though it’s papa-katsu, sometimes we end up misunderstanding things, so ladies, please be careful not to overdo the “make him genuinely fall for you” routine. Keep in mind that it’s papa-katsu, after all. The sex was really good, too… I honestly regret it. I wonder if she’d come back. I’m still hopelessly hung up on her. I’ll do papa-katsu properly, so if you’re reading this, come back, lol.

As you understand, it’s extremely rare for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to naturally turn into a genuine romantic relationship. He probably just wants to avoid paying and turn you into a free casual sex partner. Your lack of confidence is showing, and he likely sees you as a convenient woman who will do whatever he says.

If it were me, I’m sorry m(__)m I also sometimes tell my PJ partners, “I want to fall in love.” I’ve never seriously fallen for a PJ partner, or even felt anything close to that. That’s what I mean when I say I want to experience romance. I’m perfectly fine with money being involved. Not getting paid would actually be harder for me. There was one woman who came pretty close to being a romantic relationship, but she had a baby. We still see each other, though lol. I don’t develop romantic feelings for top-tier beauties, either. How are you even supposed to seriously fall for someone? I really would like to experience romance at least once. I’d love to meet a woman like Naomi from Junichiro Tanizaki’s *Naomi* and get completely swept away. And just as I was writing that answer, a woman with an A-type arrangement whom I’ve been seeing for dinner-only dates for about two years messaged me, “I’d like to go to your place,” and now I’m acting all suspicious and flustered. She’s an unbelievably beautiful, top-tier girl. What could this mean? There’s no way she likes me, so it’s 200% certain that this is about money lol. The fun of an A-type arrangement is figuring out how to win her over, but having someone I’ve never even touched suddenly say she wants to come to my place is no fun at all… But she’s incredibly beautiful, so I’d normally like to have an adult relationship with her. Still, if we do, I’ll probably wake up from this faint little dream of mine… Please, just let me try to win you over. Don’t lower the bar. Update: To Mac: I always give consultations my full attention. I’ve been listening and offering advice all this time. It’s just that this time, she skipped way too many steps. With an A-type girl, I could understand holding hands, going on date-like outings, or seeing each other every month. But we’ve only met a little over ten times in two years. And she’s not just an ordinary beauty—she clearly falls into the category of absolutely stunning—so I’m on such high alert that I’m almost considering having her sign a contract if we’re going to have an adult relationship.汗 In the past, when an A-type arrangement developed into an adult relationship, there was usually something like naturally holding hands or wanting to kiss during a date. But this time, none of that happened. We were simply supposed to meet at our usual wine bar, and then she suddenly said, “I’d rather go to your place.” Of course I’d be cautious. I could understand going to a hotel after meeting at the bar, but she wants to go straight to my room.

A free fuck buddy is bullshit, and you should never settle for that. Look for someone who pays. Aren’t you angry about being taken advantage of?