I’m still pretty new to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). How can I get my papa (a male supporter) to increase my allowance?

This feels like a bait question, so I’ll take the bait! It’s true that there are papas (male supporters) who give 500,000 or 400,000 yen for just one dinner a month—and they continue doing so. Apparently, even if they have a fight, they come back again. If, like the person asking this question, both people place value on money above all else, that kind of arrangement is possible. That said, in such cases, I imagine you would have already achieved it by now. Apparently, some people can act however they want, pick fights, and still receive that amount without making any effort at all. There may even be cases where it works without needing to make any effort whatsoever or having exceptionally remarkable looks. A man who casually spends that much money has probably had plenty of experience already, so he likely won’t be easily impressed by beauty or compatibility alone. The woman’s background and behavior would probably need to feel unique and special. She may need to be able to argue and complain freely, act naturally and on her own terms, and still have that behavior come across as genuine.

It’ll probably be difficult to raise it later on. The question is whether you have that potential from the start. Take a calm, objective look at yourself and think about your strengths and personal branding—but before all that, you need exceptional looks. If you’re not getting many offers from wealthy men in the first place, you’re probably better off giving up. Most papa-katsu women can’t do this anyway. The key is whether wealthy men feel you’re worth spending money on. Honestly, if you’re asking this question here in the first place, it sounds like it’ll be pretty difficult for you...

You’ll probably find all kinds of information if you search online, but apparently the key is: ① Commit to building a relationship of trust with your papa (a male supporter) ② Make your papa genuinely fall for you—but harmlessly ③ When you’re in trouble, get your papa to say, “I want to help,” and then accept the money That’s what they say. They also emphasize the importance of figuring out what kind of person you’re dealing with. Apparently, there are three types of papas, and you need to identify them immediately. ① The shitty papa ② The middle-of-the-road papa ③ The good papa ① The first type says things like, “Come to my place,” “Let’s go out,” “Send me some sexy pictures,” or “Be my girlfriend,” while talking down to you. Since all they think about is exploiting others without giving anything in return, you should cut them off immediately. Their characteristics: ・They only think about themselves ・They only care about having fun and don’t care whether the other person is enjoying themselves ・They only think about satisfying their own desires ・They believe that as long as they’re happy, it doesn’t matter how uncomfortable they make others feel ・They don’t even notice when they’re making someone uncomfortable ・They talk down to you ・They constantly brag ・They don’t listen to what others say ・They mistakenly believe they’re popular ・They have unrealistic expectations of women ・They love themselves ・They spend money on themselves ・Even when you tell them you’re having a hard time, they try to one-up you with stories like, “You think that’s bad? My life is even harder!” ・They send you selfies ・Their profile picture is a photo of themselves ・They spend a lot of money on their hobbies ・Even when you tell them, “I’m suffering with a cold…,” they’re crazy enough to invite you out with messages like, “Let’s hang out~” ・They look down on women ② The second type thinks, “They’ve done so much for me, so I want to do something for them,” or, “I’ve done this much for them, so they’ll give me something in return, right?” They’ll give back—in the form of money—roughly as much as you’ve given them through your commitment to building trust. Conversely, if you haven’t given them much, they’ll expect something in return. Their characteristics: ・If you’ve properly committed to building trust, they’ll think, “She always talks to me and cheers me up, so if she’s in trouble, I should give her some money.” ・On the other hand, if you haven’t built up enough trust and accept money from them, be careful: they may start expecting something in return, such as a date, thinking, “I gave her this much money, so she should do something for me…” ・If the trust between you isn’t strong enough, your papa may also cut things off after giving you money, thinking, “I’m done with this girl…” ③ The third type worries more about others than himself. He thinks, “I want to help a girl who’s in trouble,” “Even though I’ll have less money, I’ll be happy if it helps her,” and “I want to be the one who saves her.” He prioritizes giving to others and generally doesn’t think about what he can get in return. Characteristics: ・Many are single ・They believe people are responsible for their own actions ・Many are ordinary salaried workers ・They don’t find their work fulfilling and simply go to the office each day to make a living ・They repeat the cycle of going to work, coming home, and going to bed ・They have no dreams or hopes ・They have nothing to spend their money on ・They aren’t in the habit of spending much money on themselves ・They feel lonely ・They crave comfort and emotional support ・They don’t have many people around them who will listen to them ・They have at least a basic sense of cleanliness and grooming ・They aren’t interested in the online world, such as Twitter or Facebook ・They’ve never been popular with women ・They have little romantic experience ・They don’t have any hobbies they’re passionate about ・They have low expectations of women ・They’re considerate ・They always think from your perspective, saying things like, “I’ll come to wherever is convenient for you” ・They don’t invite you out unnecessarily ・They’re often alone ・Many live alone, although some people living with their families have also received support ・Because they’re lonely, they reply to LINE messages immediately Cut off type ① right away. Just look for types ② and ③. That’s how you can become rich too! There are type ① papas on Universe as well, so try to meet type ② or ③ papas. That said, scams are not okay. Keep things within limits where both of you can feel glad that you met each other.

If you’re baiting me, let me bite: dating clubs aren’t prostitution clubs, so if you’re thinking in terms of “customers” and rates, you’d be better off using another avenue. People who make good money usually get opportunities through scouts.