A few days after receiving the offer, I was contacted by the man, who said he had decided to withdraw. In fact, about two months ago, I had another man withdraw after accepting my offer in much the same way.

There’s no additional information disclosed after the offer—your profile is everything. If you’re talking about Patro, since it’s ultimately an app, there may be times when a papa (a male supporter) finds it easier to turn someone down. If this is about Patro, did you perhaps send a strange reply when responding?

From what I can tell from your post, the situation seems different from what happened with me, but I had something very similar happen just yesterday. Men usually make offers after viewing a profile, so it’s extremely rare for them to decline after making one. As for information being disclosed after the offer, I’ve hardly ever experienced that so far.

Is this another bait post, too?? After reading Makeotoko’s answer, I was surprised because I’m the complete opposite. People really do have all kinds of personalities. Some men and women feel energized when they meet someone of the opposite sex, while others find it exhausting. Everyone’s different. > As the day of the appointment gets closer, I start looking forward to it more. It’s like when you make plans with your best female friend: “Let’s go to Disneyland on May 6!” You’re incredibly excited the moment you make the plans, and as May 4 and 5 approach, you don’t gradually start dreading it—instead, you get more and more excited, until on May 6 you feel like jumping out of bed. I’m the same way, even as an older guy. I may be eager to meet her the moment I make the offer, but as time passes, my excitement doesn’t fade—in fact, it keeps growing. I get excited just thinking about what kind of restaurant we’ll go to. I’ve never withdrawn an offer. Even if a woman takes a long time to reply, it doesn’t bother me at all. With a monthly arrangement, even if she’s slow to reply (which really doesn’t bother me), she gradually starts replying faster and faster, eventually responding within seconds. I guess I’m the opposite of Makeotoko in almost every way… This was the only part we had in common: ↓ > When it’s a woman I haven’t met yet, my motivation gradually decreases as time passes.

> Information disclosed about me after an offer is made Basically, all information that can be disclosed is already provided before an offer is made, so there shouldn’t be any additional information disclosed afterward. Therefore, I don’t think that’s the reason. That said, if you had asked them to disclose certain information only to the person who made an offer, then that could be a possibility. Is that what you requested? If so, there’s a problem with that approach. It would be better either to have the information made public from the beginning or to tell them yourself after meeting them. In the first place, though, I’ve hardly ever heard of anyone asking for information to be shared only with people who make an offer. Some clubs do disclose clear photos only to men considering making an offer, but even then, that’s still before the offer is made. > Why men decline after making an offer As with women, men are not allowed to cancel once the setting has been confirmed. So when a man cancels, it’s usually because something suddenly came up at work, and cancellations are only accepted for unavoidable reasons. Also, if the same person keeps claiming that work suddenly came up, the staff will warn him. If it continues, they may even discuss asking him to leave the club. (Of course, if he does the same thing after that, he’ll be forcibly removed.) So I get the feeling that you may have simply happened to encounter several people like that in a row. There’s also a possibility that Kazu’s answer is relevant, but it depends on whether they canceled after receiving your offer or after the date had already been scheduled. If three days pass after receiving an offer without setting a date, it’s quite normal for the man to say he’s canceling because the woman is taking too long to respond. Of course, if you’ve told him something like, “My work schedule will be released on [date], so please wait until then,” he’ll often be willing to wait until that day.

Under the membership rules, cancellations generally aren’t allowed once the date has been confirmed. If the cancellation happened several days after the offer, does that mean the date still hadn’t been set even after several days? In my personal experience, I’ve never had a situation where the date still wasn’t decided after several days. I don’t think it was a matter of psychology or anything like that—the issue was probably simply that the date wasn’t arranged promptly. Weren’t you told during the interview to reply to offer messages within 24 hours? If you repeatedly delay your replies, they may forcibly terminate your membership, since they can’t keep a profile up for a woman who can’t be reached.

Is this about a letter date? The reasons men withdraw an offer partway through are exactly the same as for women. Even if it’s your boyfriend, you start feeling like it’s a hassle as the day of the plans gets closer, right? Or when you first make plans with your best friend—“Let’s go to Disney on May 6!”—you’re super excited, but as May 4 and 5 approach, you gradually start dreading it, right? On May 6 itself, you don’t even want to get out of bed, do you? Men are the same. They may be fully motivated to meet when they first make the offer, but as time passes, their enthusiasm gradually fades. I’ve withdrawn offers many times myself. The reason was that the woman took too long to reply, and during that time I lost interest in meeting her. With a monthly arrangement, it’s different—I don’t mind slow replies at all. But when it’s someone I haven’t met yet, my motivation gradually drops as time passes. My advice to you is that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a business, so reply promptly—at least until you’ve built a relationship with your papa (a male supporter). Otherwise, he’ll make an offer to the next woman, and the club will contact you to let you know he’s withdrawn.