I also suggest exchanging LINE contact information, just in case.
I feel bad about having to tell someone on the spot that there won’t be a next time.
If it’s only LINE, I can always block them if they keep contacting me afterward.
As you’d expect from the women at Universe Club, I’ve never met anyone who made me feel I had to use the block function myself.
Even if you feel like you’re not a good match, I think it’s fine to exchange contact information for the time being and block him right afterward. LINE has a blocking feature, after all.
Some papas (male supporters) may forget the allowance, or be new to making offers and not know when to hand it over. So make sure to remind him and get your allowance.
> Could a male member complain to the club if I firmly turned him down without exchanging contact information?
Complaints specifically saying, “She wouldn’t exchange contact information,” are extremely rare. My guess is that it’s because not exchanging contact information clearly tells him, “She wasn’t interested in me,” so he doesn’t even feel the need to contact the club.
After all, many men who believe things are going well after meeting someone several times become curious and want at least an explanation when she suddenly stops replying.
Compared with that, refusing to exchange contact information is a very clear indication of your intentions, so perhaps it doesn’t even become a complaint. Of course, from the man’s perspective, he may feel disappointed and wish she had exchanged it.
There may also be men who get angry on the spot, so I think it might be better to exchange contact information and then simply not reply afterward.
However, once you do exchange contact information, complaints can arise such as, “She never even messaged to thank me for dinner. Anyone would send a thank-you message—that’s basic manners.”
I would think, “She didn’t thank you because she didn’t want to continue seeing you,” but the fact that some people don’t arrive at that conclusion makes me wonder, “Are they mentally still in middle school?”
Considering how often these situations occur, if you’re able to say you don’t want to exchange contact information, that may actually be the better option.
> On my first date, the man said he had forgotten to give me the allowance and only gave it to me after I asked him about it before leaving. Doesn’t the club remind men not to forget the allowance when making the offer...?
The allowance is something the two of you are supposed to decide between yourselves.
Are you perhaps referring to the club’s transportation fee—which is essentially a ¥10,000 token of appreciation?
Because men often forgot to give it, the club changed the rule quite some time ago so that it is handed over at the beginning of the meal.
At the time, some men said, “I never forget to give it. Only people who forget should have to pay upfront. I’m absolutely fine, so I want to keep giving it at the end of the date.”
For men who had joined before the rule change, it became more of a request than a strict rule.
Even now, though, men still forget to give the transportation fee.
Well, since they’re the kind of people who prioritize their own rules over the club’s rules, the outcome is only too predictable. It’s disappointing that there are still such hopeless people at Universe.
If the club simply expelled anyone who forgot, they would disappear, but it’s a difficult issue.
Most people would probably think, “You’d force someone to leave over something that minor?”
Maybe if the rule were that anyone who forgot had to give the woman ten times the amount, women would think, “Well, if he forgets, I’ll get ¥100,000, so that’s fine.”
> Until now, most of the club’s male members have smoothly given me the allowance without my having to say anything, so I was just wondering.
The rule changed quite some time ago, so I think most men now hand it over as soon as they sit down at the table—before the meal.
Apparently, though, some long-time members are still disappointingly prone to forgetting.
I do wonder when people will finally stop forgetting to pay.
PATOLO tried to eliminate this issue by having men pay the transportation fee to the club when paying the setting fee, with the club then giving it to the woman. That way, it couldn’t be forgotten.
But that system was eventually discontinued as well.
Whenever a new system is introduced, various opinions are bound to arise. It seems a shame to abolish it so quickly.
I wish they had given it time to mature...
Even if the club receives a complaint, I think it should be fine to say that you exchanged contact information just to get through the situation, even though you didn’t really click.
I imagine many men will approach you once you exchange contact information, but if you can handle it well, I don’t see a problem. What do you think?
Forgetting to give the allowance will very likely result in negative feedback unless the woman is exceptionally understanding. The club should have explained during the consultation that, to prevent this from happening, they recommend giving it to her at the very beginning of the meeting.
