I’m sorry for asking so many questions. I’d really appreciate your answers.

Men can hide their entire profile or hide their class. “Nice profile” Please think of it as something that’s better than nothing, at best. My profile, Fuu, is currently private. When I made it public, I received some “Nice profile” reactions, but only about two came from women I’d favorited and actually liked. Since it costs money, I decided to prioritize my own preferences. In the end, I make offers from my favorites anyway, so I stopped making my profile public. The kind of message a man would want to receive an offer from: Personally, Fuu likes someone who is: - Polite, but not overly formal - A little suggestive, but not too explicit - Kind and gentle, with a caring attitude - Clean-looking, with a nice smile and a slim waist - Height minus 110 = body weight in kilograms, ±5 kg The latter half is basically all about looks, lol.

I keep mine private too. As for my own class, I’ve been BLACK before, and I’ve also set it to PLATINUM and GOLD. When I’m not planning to make many offers, I leave it at GOLD. If there’s a woman I want to make an offer to who’s in PLATINUM or BLACK, I change my class to match hers. I think there are probably quite a few men like that. In other words, being BLACK doesn’t necessarily mean someone pays well, and being GOLD doesn’t mean he’s stingy. That’s why I don’t think it means much for women to know a man’s class. The “Nice” feature is a tricky one. It does catch people’s attention, and it doesn’t leave a bad impression, but the downside is that people may wonder whether you’re not getting many offers. Recently, some women have started sending a “Nice” back whenever a man adds them to his favorites. I think it’s a clever approach because it shows that they want to catch his eye without making him wonder unnecessarily about how many offers they’re receiving. It’s better to send a message too. However, you shouldn’t assume it will immediately lead to an offer. Timing matters, after all…

Male members can choose whether to show or hide their class. Personally, I’ve never made an offer in response to receiving a “You seem lovely.” However, I do think seeing one might occasionally make me consider making an offer. In that case, at the very least, I’d expect the person to have properly viewed my profile and written something that really caught my attention. With that in mind, I don’t think people who mindlessly send “You seem lovely” messages are accomplishing much. That said, from the perspective that you won’t get results without taking action, it’s probably still better than doing nothing. In my case, my profile is private. I live in both the Kanto and Kansai areas, and whenever I make it public, I receive intense messages from people around my age who are from the same hometown but now live in other regions. It honestly scares me—could they be former classmates from middle or high school?—so I’m no longer willing to make my profile public.

As the member who works as a systems engineer explained, men can choose whether to make their class public or private. I keep mine private as well. I also make my profile visible only to women I’ve made an offer to. I find it annoying when women who aren’t my type send me messages saying things like, “You’re wonderful.” I do receive messages on apps and such, but as Paper Airplane pointed out, most of them seem to be sent indiscriminately. I’ve never made an offer to anyone who has messaged me. At Universe Club, the only women whose actions prompted me to make an offer were female members who read my Question Box and contacted me through the club. In those cases, their messages made me feel that they had read my usual answers and genuinely liked me. I used to make offers to women who contacted me that way and meet them, but after some complicated people started posting in the Question Box and most of the posts turned into pranks, I don’t think I would meet a female reader even if she contacted me now. Adding this after reading Maezawa’s answer: > I think that’s one of the major differences between dating sites and dating clubs. > (I believe the difference comes down to whether or not you have to pay a setup fee to make an offer.) For me, it’s not about the setup fee. It’s about whether you’re looking for a hole or a partner to date. Apps don’t charge a setup fee, but I still ignore women who send me likes or messages there. On dating sites, I used to check what kind of relationship the women who liked me were looking for.

> Can men choose whether their profile is public or private themselves? Yes, they can. > Does it have a major impact on receiving offers? It doesn’t have a major impact on offers. At most, it might make a difference in one out of every 100 messages you send. Ultimately, though, it comes down to whether the woman matches the man’s preferences. Some women can send 100 messages and never receive an offer, while others receive plenty of offers despite never sending a single “You’re lovely” message. > What kind of messages make men think, “I’d like to make her an offer”? Photos and videos have the biggest impact, so messages are really just a trigger. There are probably messages that make men want to look at a woman’s profile. But if they look at it and decide she isn’t their type, then no matter how amazing the message was, I don’t think it will lead to an offer. I think that’s one of the major differences between dating sites and dating clubs. (I believe this is connected to whether or not a setting fee is charged for making an offer.) P.S. > For me, it’s not about the setting fee—it’s about whether someone is looking for a body or a dating partner. I shouldn’t have forgotten that, in every situation, it ultimately differs from person to person.

I think it’s probably best to send “You seem lovely” only to men who have added you to their favorites. Otherwise, it can look like you’re sending it out indiscriminately to lots of men, making people wonder how you even found them. And if the message is too detailed or overly enthusiastic, that can feel intimidating and become a reason to lose interest either way. If a man has added you to his favorites, simply sending “You seem lovely” in return should raise your chances of receiving an offer, even if only slightly. Whether you include a message or not probably won’t make much difference. If he wants to make an offer, he will. Men who know so much about the club or are so active that they can write detailed messages can also be a little off-putting. So unless his profile really interests you, there’s no need to add a comment when he’s already favorited you. That said, if a man is looking for a woman who is active and enthusiastic, a thoughtful message can be a plus—so it really depends on the individual. Personally, I’m put off by someone who is too proactive. Adult relationship first, or dating first? Allowance first, or dating first? Do you want a relationship, or do you want to participate in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? I think it varies from person to person, for both men and women. P.S. Some men may not remember—or may not know—whether their profile is public or private. Some may not even know that their profile is public, that they can make it public, or may never have edited it even once. And from a woman’s perspective, overly proactive men probably don’t leave the best impression either.

Men can choose whether to make their class public or private. By the way, with this latest update, I was downgraded from Black to Platinum, but my profile has remained private the whole time. In my case, I’ve had women I added to my favorites send me a “You seem wonderful” message, which eventually led to an offer. I’m not very interested in “You seem wonderful” messages with no message attached, or generic template messages that seem to be sent to everyone.