> The amount doesn’t seem particularly reasonable.
I’m not sure what you consider “reasonable” or what amount would qualify, but you could simply ask for whatever amount you feel is fair.
If you think around ¥200,000 is reasonable, just tell him that you’d like around ¥200,000 a month.
> Being handed the full amount at the first meeting
If you receive the money at the first meeting, it doesn’t sound like a scam. And if you’re worried about someone disappearing afterward, people may do that even with a pay-per-meeting allowance of ¥30,000, so I’m not sure what exactly makes you think it might be a scam.
> He proposed ¥600,000–¥900,000 a month, for about six adult relationships
If you meet him without clearly confirming how much you want, he could say, “I intended to pay ¥600,000–¥900,000, but because this or that was the case, I’ll only pay ¥300,000,” or “The terms were different, so I’ll pay ¥50,000.” He could make up any amount he wanted.
So you should confirm things like whether you’ll be paid before becoming intimate and whether the allowance is guaranteed.
In the first place, the ¥600,000–¥900,000 is based on meeting six times. If you meet him once and decide you don’t want to see him again, there’s also a possibility that you’ll receive nothing.
That may seem like a scam, but based on the information provided, he has stated a monthly amount without saying what happens if you don’t meet after the second time. So if he says, “You didn’t meet for the month, so no money is owed,” you might have to admit that you never actually agreed on that point.
It’s fine to be concerned about whether it’s a scam, but I think it’s also important to carefully consider exactly what you’ve agreed to.
If you get the money upfront, I’d say it’s worth considering.
There’s no reward without some risk, after all.
But offering a big monthly allowance without even having been intimate first is something I’ve done too—and I was so nervous that I couldn’t even get hard the first time.
I kept wondering how I’d turn him down if we weren’t physically compatible.
I think that’s a valid concern.
You could also say that both of you are focusing on the terms before you’ve even met.
If you’re already worried about this before meeting, without considering your compatibility or whether you’ll actually like each other, I feel it may be difficult to build the kind of relationship you’re looking for. That said, perhaps you would still be satisfied as long as the allowance meets your expectations.
They’re offering that amount before even meeting you—with a range, no less—and saying they’ll hand over the full amount in cash? I won’t say it’s absolutely impossible, but wouldn’t it be better to steer clear?
There’s no way for us to know whether it’s a scam or not.
That said, I think people who offer a monthly arrangement despite never having been intimate or even met in person tend to have strong expectations or preconceived notions. When those expectations differ from reality, some people honor the promise they made, while others don’t.
It’s probably best to keep that in mind.
Also, why is there such a wide range—60 to 90? The man may not have intended it as an offer to date you specifically.
