I’m having trouble with delayed ejaculation, and I usually end up asking my partner to finish me by hand.

Tenga is a brand name, and people generally think of it as a masturbator. Broadly speaking, there are penetrating and non-penetrating types, so it might be good to choose between them depending on what you want. You can order them online, but Don Quijote has a dedicated section with a wide selection. My mentor is practically an “adult-toy professor” and boasts that he’s spent over 10 million yen on masturbators. According to him, “Which one is best depends on the person. Asking other people is the lowest of the low.” So, questioner, you’re going to get scolded by my mentor, haha. It’s such a shame that everyone doesn’t know how amazing handjobs are. My favorite right now is Emi, who calls herself a “handjob master.” She’s brought many old guys to their knees with this technique. Naturally, I’m one of them. According to her: The secret to a great handjob is “teasing.” It takes at least an hour, haha. Yesterday, she teased and teased me. In the end, I finished inside without a condom in one minute. I think even delayed ejaculation can be cured by the master. Don’t go straight to intercourse when you can’t finish—tease with a handjob first, then move on to penetration. Give it a try! Haha. Also, in my opinion, jap kasai is effective for delayed ejaculation too. Give that a try as well!

I bought a TENGA but haven’t used it even once. Maybe I’ll try it tonight. There was also a girl who, after we did it once, quickly tapped out because her vagina was too sensitive, so penetration wasn’t possible—but she would use her mouth or hands. It was fun in its own way. The allowance was half of what I would’ve paid for penetration.

Delayed ejaculation is a type of ejaculatory disorder, and the theory behind why Tenga may help is that it’s designed to feel similar to an actual vagina. So if you can ejaculate from that stimulation, you should theoretically be able to ejaculate during vaginal sex as well. It’s suited to people who have gotten used to masturbating with very intense stimulation, like rubbing against the floor. So a standard product might be best. Or perhaps one that’s looser and feels almost a little too mild. Separately, how often does the person asking the question ejaculate? I’m in my 60s, but I generally ejaculate inside a young woman twice a day, and I’ve never suffered from delayed ejaculation. My semen is less thick and there’s less of it than when I was younger, but it still takes about 10 minutes from penetration to ejaculation—exactly the same as when I was young. The main difference from my younger days is probably that I no longer have that intense urge to ejaculate. I train my penis much like I do my muscles. I have money and nothing else I particularly want to do, so it’s just a way to pass the time. Just as taking too much time off from weight training makes it harder, I think neglecting ejaculation gradually reduces your sexual stamina too. So start by buying a regular Tenga and practice every day. I think they sell packs of 10 on Amazon. I just checked, and there’s a pack of 25 for ¥15,000—about ¥600 each. I wish they were available through hometown tax donations.

I also considered buying one in the past, but I don’t feel the need for it anymore. > In the end, I ask the woman to finish me by hand. Unless you stop doing that, Tenga training may not be as effective. If you can’t climax inside her, it’s important to sometimes give up on ejaculating altogether—especially if you’re a papa, and even more so if you have difficulty ejaculating during intercourse. I think it’s best to only climax inside her, or at least to do so whenever you’re with a woman. Otherwise, you’ll miss out on seeing her bask in the pleasurable afterglow. That would be a shame—especially if she’s a wonderful woman. If I can’t climax inside her, sometimes we simply relax in the afterglow as though I had finished, and eventually fall asleep together. Since there’s no need to withdraw, remove the condom, and take care of things separately, we can naturally stay in that mood. I’ve recently realized that this is actually an advantage. After a woman has reached her climax, I can’t imagine she would want to skip the afterglow and immediately do something to make the man ejaculate. That could cause the quality of the experience to decline more and more. In your case, I think it would be good to consider a flow that increases both of your satisfaction. Everyone is looking for something different, but I believe it’s also very important to increase both partners’—and especially the woman’s—satisfaction. It’s not a bad idea to think of the allowance, as well as the adult relationship (intimate), as ways of satisfying the woman.

I think you mean a men’s training cup. It seems to be available only online, and I couldn’t be bothered to buy one, so I haven’t actually used it myself. You should be able to find it by searching for “delayed ejaculation Tenga.”