Question about the intervals between dates

If the reasons are: “I can’t be bothered to approach a new woman,” and “I may not be able to see her again anytime soon,” then there’s no need to force yourself to make a new offer. You can simply continue seeing the woman you’re currently dating. On the other hand, if you simply want to keep meeting new women, then just make a date offer instead of saying it’s too much trouble. Whether the intervals are long or short is a minor detail—you should just make the offer if you want to. As for whether two or three weeks between dates is too long, if that would be too long for you and means you can avoid making an offer, then sure, you could say, “That’s too long, so don’t make the offer.” But if you want to hear, “Two or three weeks isn’t long at all,” then that’s the answer I’ll give you—so go ahead and make plenty of offers. In the end, I don’t think the length of the interval matters very much. It comes down to whether you want to make the offer. If that’s not what you’re asking, and you simply want to know whether the interval between offers is too long, then the only answer is that it depends on the woman. A woman who hasn’t received many offers and has only one to three papas (male supporters) may want to meet every week, in which case two or three weeks could feel too long. On the other hand, a woman who already has around ten papas may consider two or three weeks perfectly normal—or even too soon—and may feel that once a month is ideal. So I don’t think you’ll arrive at a definite conclusion by looking at it that way. That said, it’s generally said that after meeting three times, a person’s appearance tends to matter much less. So if you meet at shorter intervals during those first three dates, there may be less chance that she’ll lose interest because of your looks.

I meet women whenever they reach out to me. The girl I’ve been seeing consistently for years under a Type B arrangement wanted to meet again the day after our first meeting, then again the next day. We ended up meeting three days in a row, and at one point even met five days in a row during the first week. (Other than the women I’m still seeing, I haven’t met anyone that frequently, so I must have really liked her—not just felt we clicked.) Since then, we don’t meet every day, but the frequency has remained fairly similar. I meet them whenever the woman contacts me. I haven’t initiated an invitation to meet in all these years. Some women contact me regularly—once or twice, or sometimes two or three times a month—and we meet. Some of them are Type B as well. Regardless of whether they’re Type B or Type C, the women I have an adult relationship with every time are generally spaced out by a certain amount of time. Even with Type C women who don’t always have an adult relationship, there are some I meet several times a week.

Regardless of the type of person, I always schedule the first meeting two to four weeks later. After that, we continue meeting at the same interval.

If it feels like too much of a hassle, don’t force yourself—just pursue a relationship with the woman you’re currently seeing. Stop doing B and switch to C. For now, just go ahead and give it a try. Once you’ve confirmed that you’re both on the same page, I don’t think waiting two or three weeks before seeing each other again will be a problem.

Sometimes it was a week later, and other times it was a month later, so there’s no need to worry about it. Unless you’re unattractive to an extreme degree, what matters more than looks is how much you can actually give and how often. If you clearly explain that at the first meeting and she accepts it, I don’t think there should be a problem. It may sound cliché, but in most cases, it’s Yukichi and Eiichi—the money—that people like best.

Wouldn’t you agree that it depends on each woman, the circumstances at the time, and the man she’s seeing? I decided what to do next whenever a woman asked about my availability, so it varied from time to time.