Do you show your home to your married partner? Did seeing your home hurt her feelings so much that she cried?

What do you mean? lol If you told her, it would probably turn into a huge mess. If you’re serious about that woman, why not leave your wife? You’re rich enough to live in a mansion, aren’t you? If you can’t do that, why not at least buy her a condo?

I’m not really sure what your stance is to begin with—did you start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to find someone to have an affair with? I’m the opposite. Rather than having an affair, I started papa-katsu because I wanted a quick, paid arrangement without making a woman unhappy. “The allowance is paid per meeting and serves as severance.” Cut ties with that woman and end things with her already. I can’t tell whether it’s your indecisive nature or a cruel preference, but all I can see is a future where you make someone else unhappy. If you want “a relationship without money involved,” get divorced first.

If this is a genuinely serious relationship, of course I’m going to cry… I’m hurting and sad even now, and I’m crying. But because I love him, I want to know everything about him, no matter what. Whether he shows me or doesn’t show me, I’ll cry either way. What kind of house he lives in, what the rooms are like, how clean everything is, whether there’s a garden full of flowers, whether he has pets… Like, “Wow, even without me, this person has such a wonderful home and a family that makes him happy…” Don’t you just not want to believe that he has this happy side to his life that you know nothing about? Just because I asked, you don’t have to tell me absolutely everything. You’re being so honest that it hurts. If you’re going to hide things, then hide them properly. If you don’t want to destroy the relationship as it is, the man needs to show some consideration there. What exactly do you mean by “we’re both serious about each other”? You literally called it an affair yourself. Which is it supposed to be? I don’t get it. —From a sunflower who’s irritated because she’s on her period

Since she’s your girlfriend (a former club PJ) and you’re having an affair, it sounds like things have gone beyond the scope of club activities. Once you stopped giving her an allowance, did she start competing with your legal wife? If you’re both serious about each other, are you planning to leave your current wife and live together? You should probably look at the situation on that basis. I don’t understand what you’re hesitating about.