There’s a woman whose looks are exactly my type, and we’ve been seeing each other about twice a month for the past eight months.

The questioner’s taste and sense of style—finding designer-brand items cute—just happens to appeal to women with extensive experience in the adult entertainment industry and papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). If she had a Birkin, she’d probably ask different older men to buy her several of the same one, keep just one, and sell the rest. Imagining the pile of deadbeat old guys behind it would really put me off. Information about designer brands and the like is one strong clue for figuring out whether someone is from the “professional” side of the business. The club probably has that kind of information too. It’s like how traditional Japanese tattoos covering someone’s back or showing beneath short sleeves are a strong indication that a man may be yakuza, a quasi-yakuza type, or otherwise involved in shady circles. I think these are essentially the same pattern: someone goes drinking with a construction worker covered in tattoos and feels uncomfortable when he starts openly talking in underworld terms like “boss” and “underling”; or someone dates a woman who owns lots of designer brands and feels uneasy because she seems to have experience in the adult entertainment industry. Of course, some people get tattoos purely as a personal hobby, and there are probably a few former members of criminal organizations who have genuinely rehabilitated themselves. But thinking, “She’s involved with antisocial groups, so that’s why I feel uncomfortable,” in eight or nine cases out of ten just seems like a sign that you don’t know much about the world. Back in the day, even when visiting the adult entertainment industry, people would study profiles, analyze all sorts of things, meet in person, revise their hypotheses, improve their accuracy, and eventually find the kind of woman they were looking for. If the questioner wants to meet someone with no adult entertainment experience, little papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) experience, or simply a more innocent type, I think they should carefully analyze the profile information. But if you like flashy women or surgically enhanced faces with an unnatural, K-pop-idol-like perfection, then you need to stop being surprised by what comes with that. Your preferences come first; analysis comes afterward.

What exactly is this “feeling of discomfort” you’re talking about? lol A beautiful woman is choosing to spend time with you, so don’t get the wrong idea. There’s money involved—the allowance. If you don’t like her experience in the adult industry, the gifts she’s received from other men, or the presence of other men in her life, then you can simply end things. If you can put up with it because she’s attractive and the intimacy is good, then why not continue? If it bothers you that much, try making an offer to someone else. Isn’t it really about where you place your priorities? If you want a woman with no experience in the adult industry and no other men in the picture, you might find one—but you’ll probably have to lower your standards considerably. Take a good look in the mirror. You might want to be grateful that a woman that attractive is willing to be intimate with you in exchange for an allowance—compensation for putting up with you. If you end things, there’s also a chance you won’t find anyone who satisfies you more. My monthly partner of three years, Fuu, probably had a very generous papa—or perhaps a wealthy older lover—when she was in her twenties. I don’t know if she still does now that she’s in her thirties, but she’s very experienced, down to the smallest details, lol. She has an incredible face and figure. She’s straightforward and a little cold, but when it comes to intimacy, she’s amazing. Personally, I think being able to spend time with women like that is one of the best parts of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).

Women who are naturally lovable and admired even by other women tend to be great conversationalists, and they often receive gifts without even asking for them. It sounds like the person asking the question was completely smitten right away... Some women may not come across as the calculating type who openly fishes for gifts, but still be quite honest about liking money. They’re just straightforward, haha. Men can also state in their profiles that they don’t want anyone with experience working in the adult entertainment industry. And there are plenty of women at these clubs, so it’s not fair to say they’re all necessarily the “professional” type. (*˙ᵕ˙*)

It’s only natural for men to flock to a woman whose looks they really like. She’s probably been showered with attention since around age 20 because men wouldn’t leave her alone. In the case of the woman you’re talking about, she may simply happen to be that type. Some attractive women aren’t interested in brands, while others are more focused on their work or personal pursuits and don’t pay much attention to them. Either way, considering that she’s apparently your ideal type yet you only see her twice a month, I think you can probably tell that she’s the kind of woman you believe her to be.

I think that says more about your personal preferences than about the tendencies of female members.

Hmm… I don’t think it’s because of “clubs like this.” It just seems that women whose faces are exactly my type tend to have worked in the adult-entertainment industry, own mostly high-end designer items given to them by men, or have extensive experience as a mistress. At Universe Club, plenty of women with no papa-katsu experience and no experience in the adult-entertainment industry also register. However, some of them receive no offers at all and eventually leave. In the first place, I think most people naturally assume that if an ordinary woman owns high-end designer items, there’s no way she could have bought them all with her own salary. Ninety-nine percent of the women I’m attracted to are probably that type, but there should be one percent who aren’t. Maybe finding those women is what this place is really about. Let me say this again: plenty of women who have never worked in the adult-entertainment industry and have never done papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are registered here. There are even virgins occasionally…