Nice to meet you. I’m a 20-year-old woman registered with the club as a Type C.

I think the latex allergy is probably a lie, but to verify it, you could have him hold a latex condom in his hand and see whether his hand turns red. Even if it is genuine, as Mac-san wrote, the 0.01 mm and 0.02 mm ones aren’t made of latex (even Okamoto’s aren’t), so using those shouldn’t trigger an allergic reaction. I believe the thinnest latex ones are 0.03 mm. This is a bit off-topic, but since the 0.01 mm and 0.02 mm ones aren’t latex, some people may find them uncomfortable or unusual to wear. The 0.03 mm ones are latex, though, so it might be a good idea to prepare those instead. (That said, some men dislike it when a woman brings them because it makes her seem too professional, so it can be a tricky subject.) Anyway, going back to the main point: the fact that he didn’t simply lie and say he wanted to go without protection makes me feel that he’s not very trustworthy as a person either. > Should I put up with it and decline a second meeting…? There’s no doubt that you shouldn’t force yourself to put up with it. That said, if you haven’t met any other men yet, I think you should decide whether to tolerate it until you find someone else based on these two points: 1. Tell him, “I won’t reply until the day before we meet,” and see whether he’ll still meet you even if you don’t respond. 2. Consider whether the allowance is more than the amount you personally find acceptable. (I get the impression that many women consider ¥50,000 or more reasonable.) By the way, if the allowance is ¥30,000 or less, there are plenty of men like that on dating apps too, so you may be able to find someone decent there without having to put up with this. I’ve heard that younger women have an advantage on dating apps, so at 20, you may have plenty of offers. (However, I hear that being stood up is common and that some men disappear after getting what they want, so you’ll need to take precautions. Even so, apparently you’ll still receive a lot of messages.)

The biggest question is whether you’re willing to go without protection. I suspect the latex allergy is just an excuse, but if it’s true that he offered a letter date only one month after joining, he’s almost certainly a blacklisted guy. If you’re willing to consider it depending on the terms, you could take him at his word that he’ll pay and ask for the allowance you want—perhaps even quote him a high amount. I understand why his message made you uncomfortable, but unless you’re getting plenty of offers, it’s important to let some of the downsides roll off your back. Once you start receiving lots of offers and have a few regulars, you can simply say goodbye to anyone you don’t like. Just keep in mind that the hardest part of this activity is continuing with it.

Unless you absolutely need the money or have some other unavoidable reason, I think it’s fine to turn down the arrangement. Unless you can genuinely tolerate it, forcing yourself will only leave you feeling miserable. Hopefully, you’ll get a better offer next time...

It’s completely understandable if you found it very off-putting. Since this isn’t a romantic relationship, things should start with both people being considerate of each other—especially when a man has taken the initiative because he likes you. Bringing up only his one-sided demands beforehand could reasonably be seen as playing unfairly. I think there are plenty of men who take satisfaction not just in getting what they want, but also in making a woman happy. Getting involved with a papa (a male supporter) who immediately insists on having things his way would just be a waste of time. And especially when he brings up something he knows you won’t like beforehand over LINE, rather than in person—that strikes me as particularly malicious.

If he really had a latex allergy, he should know about Sagami Original, a polyurethane condom that can be used by people with latex allergies. So I think he’s lying. The good thing about this man is that he clearly told you beforehand that he wanted to have sex without a condom. Apparently, some men pressure you during the act by saying, “It’ll be fine without one,” or secretly take it off without telling you. The bad points are that he wants to do it without a condom and that he’s a liar. Send him a clear message saying, “I absolutely don’t want to have sex without a condom because of the risk of STIs. If you have a latex allergy, I want you to use a condom that’s suitable for people with that allergy.” If that doesn’t work, let’s call it quits. As I mentioned above, one positive thing about him is that he may be willing to negotiate, so give him credit for that. That said, if the whole LINE situation is already giving you a bad feeling, then you’re probably just not compatible on an instinctive level. In that case, I’d simply delete the chat without even marking it as read.

If someone gives you an instinctive feeling that it’s not going to work, there’s probably a reason for that, even if you can’t put it into words. I think you should turn them down. The biggest difference between papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and the sex industry is that, as a woman, you can say no. Don’t force yourself. There’s no way to verify whether he really has a latex allergy or not. Regardless of whether the man is allergic to condoms, the risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections remains the same for the woman. It’s only about his convenience, and even if he really does have a latex allergy, what does it say about him that he’s making such a big deal of it?

A latex allergy is just an excuse. Have him get tested for STIs, and negotiate for at least ¥200,000 per pay-per-meeting arrangement.