At some point, male members suddenly stopped adding me to their favorites altogether.

Hmm, it’s also possible that you’ve been hidden from view. As I mentioned before, there are some extremely male-oriented staff members, so it’s possible that a staff member hid your profile because of some minor wording. That said, there’s no way to know without checking. I’m not currently handling inquiries directly, but if you contact them as follows, they should at least be able to pass the situation on to me: “I’m contacting you because I was told through the Q&A box to get in touch with Mr. Maezawa. Here is the URL, and my club name is ○○. I look forward to hearing back from Mr. Maezawa.” If you send something along those lines, I think they’ll contact me, and I’ll let you know what’s currently going on. > I couldn’t make it because I received an offer at short notice the day before. The staff understand that it’s perfectly reasonable not to be available for an offer made the day before, so this wouldn’t be the cause, and they wouldn’t write anything about it. > I received an offer on a day I hadn’t marked as available on my calendar. A lot of people don’t consider the calendar reliable, so offers may still be made on days like that. But I don’t think anything would happen just because you turned one down. The other one of the three offers may also have been for one of the reasons above, but I still don’t think something this minor would be the cause. > Do staff comments on a woman’s profile ever include negative information? They include both positive and negative comments. But I don’t think anything about this particular situation would have been written there, so it’s a mystery. That said, the number of new favorites you receive also tends to decrease over time.

There are a lot of members, so the club staff aren’t so idle that they’d go out of their way to add such detailed information to every profile. In fact, I’ve never seen a profile updated later with information like that. More likely, one of these things happened: - The longer you’re registered, the lower your profile’s ranking becomes, so fewer people who browse from the top see it. - Your rating got worse. It used to be above 3 stars, but dropped to 3 or below. What I don’t really understand is why you’d turn someone down just because the date doesn’t work. You could simply say, “That day doesn’t work for me, but how about [another date]?” I don’t see why you’d refuse outright. As time goes by, you’ll receive fewer offers, so I think you should value each one. Having new photos taken will move your profile higher in the listings, so you might get some offers—not as many as when you first registered, though. But if your rating is 3 stars, that’s basically the default for everyone. And if it drops below 3, you probably won’t receive any offers. Keep putting effort into your papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and do your best to become someone papas want to continue seeing.

Unless you cancel at the last minute on the day itself, I’ve never seen anyone leave a negative comment just because an offer was declined. On this site, they check whether you want to continue after about six months. If you renew, your profile appears at the top again. Since new women appear at the top every day, by the fifth or sixth month, your profile is barely seen anymore. Since it’s been about six months, letting them know you want to continue should put you back at the top. Also, if you have new photos taken, you can add more profile information, which makes it easier for people to notice you.

It’s probably not for the reasons you’re worried about—most likely, it’s simply because about six months have passed. Even after six months, I don’t think there are that many women who still receive offers or get added to favorites. From the men’s perspective, there’s no real disadvantage to looking only at new members who joined within the past three days or one to two weeks. Men who want to enjoy an ongoing relationship don’t need to make offers frequently. So they can get by with new women alone, which makes it seem less likely that things will develop into a long-term arrangement as more time passes.

I don’t know what your profile says, but I have seen profiles mentioning that scheduling can be difficult. That said, I don’t think you’d receive a negative review simply for making a request the day before or saying you weren’t available on a day marked as unavailable on your calendar. Of course, negative things do sometimes get written. Personally, I find introductions that contain nothing but positive comments less credible. More than that, though, if I saw a woman who had been a member for six months and was still diligently updating her calendar, I think I’d be put off by how passionate she seemed about finding a papa (a male supporter).