I’ve met several men through this club. For around two hours of dinner followed by two to three hours of an adult relationship (intimate), I’ve met men offering ¥20,000, ¥30,000, ¥40,000, ¥50,000, or ¥60,000 on a pay-per-meeting basis. There were several men offering each of those amounts.
Personally, I’d ideally like around ¥50,000, but there are a few men who want to pay only ¥20,000.
Since it’s a date with a man, I spend hours getting ready, buy new clothes, pay for transportation, and look forward to the date. When the allowance is that low, I can’t help feeling like I’m being looked down on, and it makes me feel empty.
I’m coming from another prefecture, so the actual transportation costs are also fairly expensive, and I spend a lot of time getting there while looking forward to the date.
It’s not just about the money, but is it unreasonable to feel sad when the amount is excessively low?
I understand there’s no fixed going rate, but for reference, how much do the men here usually give women on a pay-per-meeting basis? Women, how much support do you receive per meeting? I'd appreciate hearing your experiences.
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It’s all about the balance between supply and demand, so naturally, women want to get as much as possible while men want to pay as little as possible.
On Pato, you can state your desired allowance, so if you set it at 50,000 yen or more, you may get fewer papas (male supporters) offering low amounts.
If you’re getting offers of 50,000 or 60,000 yen, you could simply decide not to pursue any arrangements below that.
Of course, there are also women who don’t receive offers at the 50,000–60,000 yen level, so I think you’re fortunate in terms of your looks and personality. And, of course, your own efforts must play a part too…
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I thought it was a legitimate question until I got to the end:
“How much do the gentlemen here usually give the ladies as an allowance on a pay-per-meeting basis? Ladies, how much support do you receive each time? I’d appreciate it for reference.”
Looks like the usual person is once again conducting a survey of the respondents’ activity.
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I’ve had moments in the past when I instantly clicked with someone, like a dentist, and I’ve now been seeing one favorite woman from the club for nearly five or six years. We’ve never discussed the allowance amount, nor have we ever formally set any terms. We see each other quite often, but the allowance is completely average.
Whether we have dinner or an adult relationship (intimate) is decided naturally by her after we meet, so when we see each other frequently, it’s mostly dinner, which doesn’t offer much financial benefit in terms of the allowance.
Even when they have an adult relationship (intimate), I think there are men and women who see it as something that naturally develops from spending time together—going out, dating, looking for good food, and exchanging advice and opinions as equals. There may also be couples who feel a genuine connection in that kind of relationship, though perhaps they’re in the minority.
I suppose everyone has their own values and way of life: whether they’re looking for a relationship, simply seeking their objective—the woman’s being money and the man’s being an adult relationship (intimate)—or whether they want to feel that evaluation, value, and satisfaction reflected in the allowance.
The fact that such a wide range of men approach you probably means you have a friendly, approachable atmosphere rather than seeming aloof or stuck-up, for better or worse. That can be considered a major advantage, so I think you should simply choose carefully and keep the people who are right for you.
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The allowances women proposed this year ranged from 4 at the low end to 15 at the high end. I spent the night with the girl who asked for 15, but honestly, it wasn’t enjoyable at all. I might meet her one more time, though.
The highest allowance for my monthly arrangement works out to over 30 on a pay-per-meeting basis. I also provide her with plenty of support beyond the allowance.
To be honest, I’d like to give much more to the other girls whose allowances are lower, too. I want to give as much money as I possibly can. I want to become someone who’s capable of doing that.
Personally, I believe a man’s worth is measured by how generous his allowance is. That’s why I’m frustrated that I’m not currently able to give very much. I need to work much, much harder.
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When it was 20,000 yen, I was happy, but since that’s the same amount as on papa-katsu apps, I wondered if they didn’t really like me—and the arrangements usually didn’t last.
On the other hand, if I was offered too much, I’d get nervous and couldn’t talk properly, so those didn’t last either (´；ω；｀)
But with each offer, I gradually became able to discuss an amount that suited me—or maybe my ideal amount.
I don’t think they’re looking down on me. Rather, each man seems to think beforehand about roughly how much he can offer and is approaching things in good faith.
I hope you’re able to have a good discussion too ( ` -´ )b Nice!
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I keep the allowance higher by dining at family restaurants and using love hotels. If I took her to an upscale restaurant, a luxury hotel, and gave her expensive gifts, the allowance would be zero.
What’s the point of comparing allowances alone?
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If you’ve read this site enough to understand that there’s no standard rate, then you already know roughly how much the respondents here give per meeting.
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