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Nov 19, 2024 21:25
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🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
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If you’re looking for someone who shares your values and is compatible with you—someone you can have a good relationship with and stay with long term—I think it’s best not to put on an act. Just dress and present yourself naturally, as you normally would. For a short-term relationship, though, I can understand putting on an appearance and playing a role.
It also depends on your age.
If someone says she started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because she really needed the money, but she’s young and always wearing luxury brands, it naturally raises questions—even if men around her can’t seem to leave her alone.
Once you’re in your mid-20s or older, there’s nothing unnatural about wearing whatever you like. Some women wear luxury brands, while others prefer no-name brands. Everyone has different tastes and chooses to spend money on different things.
Also, whether it’s a high-end restaurant, karaoke, the movies, or a casual diner, you can’t truly enjoy going there with someone who doesn’t normally go there at her own expense. Otherwise, it all just stays on the surface.
I also feel that how much you relate to someone’s everyday values can be an important factor in all kinds of ways.
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Some papas like wearing designer brands, while others don’t. Of the men I’ve met, I’d say it’s about an even split. Even among those who wear designer items themselves, though, relatively few expect the women they date to do the same.
So I think it’s safest not to wear brand-name items right from the first meeting. Of all the papas I’ve had, there’s only been one who wanted me to wear designer brands. I didn’t own any at all, so he took me to stores like Van Cleef & Arpels, Hermès, and Cartier and bought me gifts.
Because of that, I always make sure to wear something from him when I go on a date with that papa. He also likes clothes and shoes and often buys them for me, and he’s happy when I use the things he’s given me. Still, I feel they’re a bit beyond my means, so in my everyday life I stick to clothes and bags that I could afford to buy with my own income. I hope this helps.
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🏅 デート開拓者
ユニバース5年目。女性とはいろいろな商業施設に行ってデートしています。
Age: 50s
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If you don’t match what you wrote in your profile, they’ll feel like “this isn’t what we agreed on.”
If you say you’re desperate to pay your tuition but spend a lot on your clothes, that may seem inconsistent. And if you write that you want to go on dates at stylish restaurants but don’t put any effort into your appearance, they’ll be disappointed.
(If you can steer things toward having them buy you designer items, though, you’re a real pro.)
🏅 プロおぢ。ほんとはプロパパと名乗りたいけど名乗るほどの実力がない名古屋の汚っさんです。
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If you believe you’re worth wearing designer brands, then feel free to meet your papa (a male supporter) dressed in them. If designer clothing clearly suits you, there’s absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about.
For men, the allowance reflects their own value. I’m probably what you’d call a very generous (well-paying) papa, but it’s not that I’m intoxicated by giving a high allowance. It’s more like:
“I’ve become the kind of man who can give this much without it shaking my confidence. All that hard work has paid off.”
That’s why I give a generous allowance.
How do you feel about your own value? If you believe you’re the kind of woman who should wear designer brands, then by all means, meet your papa wearing them.
However, if you’re thinking, “Maybe I’m trying a little too hard,” then you’d be better off not doing it. Your papa will notice.
If designer brands suit a woman perfectly, I’d give her anything from 20 to 50 for a pay-per-meeting arrangement and say, “You’re truly exceptional. That outfit looks great on you.” In other words, I’m intoxicated by being able to give her exactly what she wants without hesitation, then disappear with her to a hotel.
You should let the men feel that way too.
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At the end of the day, women join dating clubs because they want money, right? When meeting someone for the first time, you’re wondering what level of allowance she’s expecting. So if she shows up covered head to toe in designer brands, I think it’s only natural to be put off and think, “Wow, this woman’s financial needs must be enormous.”
If she’s doing that to keep poor men away, as Mr. Maezawa says, then I’d appreciate it if she would clearly state that in her profile or comments. That way, we wouldn’t waste money making an offer, and she wouldn’t waste her time either—everyone wins.
On the other hand, if she openly says on PATOLO that she’s looking for an allowance of 30,000 yen, and then shows up wearing lots of designer brands, I could probably accept it with a little more understanding.
But if she says, “Dinner and a hotel are kind of boring, so I’d love to go shopping together and do couple-like things♡,” then I’d immediately think, “Here we go━━━━(ﾟ∀ﾟ)━━━━!!” (笑)
Taro
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Men who want to date high-level women probably wouldn’t be bothered by that much. In fact, since it can keep men who don’t have much money at bay, I think it can serve as a kind of protective charm for women who attract a lot of male interest.
That said, many men generally want to help a woman or support her growth, so wearing designer items on a date with that kind of man would probably work against you.
Age: Private
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Personally, I wouldn’t be put off by dating a woman who wears designer brands, though I’m sure there are men who would be.
You’re lumping all men together, but men are people too, and each has their own personality.