I quit after finding a papa who seemed great at first glance, but his behavior afterward became disturbing, so I ended things. He said things like, “I’m going to leave my wife, so I want you to have my child,” and would try to pressure me into doing it without protection.
I still want a papa, so I recently joined another dating club, but I’m struggling because I haven’t received many offers.
I received quite a few offers through Universe, so I’d really like to use their services again. However, I want to enjoy a fun, transactional relationship, and I’m worried that some strange people might contact me again.
Does anyone have any tips for spotting them?
I love erotic stuff, but I don’t want to go through anything scary. I’d like to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) safely and successfully.
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There are weird people everywhere.
This is just Fuu’s personal take, with no evidence to back it up, but I’d say the Pareto principle probably applies lol:
- 80% are pretty difficult papas
- 20% are just barely decent papas
A good-looking older man who’s generous (well-paying)? That kind of papa is probably in the top single-digit percentage—basically a miracle.
Unlike working in the sex industry, one of the good things about papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is that women can choose too. Like a gacha game, I think it’s best to wait for offers until you land a good papa.
It’s all about luck! lol
This happens because you’re limiting yourself to just one papa. Even while turning down papas you don’t like, dating multiple people would probably reduce the damage.
There are probably also papas like the one the questioner described—acting nice at first, then suddenly showing their true colors. (Women can be like that too, though lol)
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A guy who takes off the condom just wants to have unprotected sex. He wants to keep going without one and ejaculate inside you repeatedly.
Maybe you should go back to Universe. I also registered with other dating clubs, but there were a lot of strange people and men offering very little allowance.
If you register with Universe again, try meeting everyone who makes you an offer. With just a little compromise, you might meet someone decent.
☆ One thing to keep in mind: papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t something that usually lasts forever.
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Including myself, basically everyone at Uchuu Club is a little weird. That said, there are weird people the questioner can accept and weird people they can’t. Only God knows the ratio. There’s always a certain chance of drawing a dud (or a loser?!), and avoiding that is pretty difficult. So develop your risk-management skills, and if someone seems weird, get away immediately.
By the way, I’ve never been proposed to at Uchuu Club, but apparently it’s not that unusual. Among the women from Uchuu Club I know, there isn’t a single one who has never been proposed to.
As you said, anyone who says, “Have my baby” must have maggots in their brain. Still, maybe you could just say, “Are you stupid?”
In other words, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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It’s not exactly “The Devil’s Dictionary” of piercings, but sometimes:
“A papa who looks great at first glance turns out to be creepy, while the papa you initially found creepy turns out to be a good one.”
The trick is not to put too much weight on your first impression and make your judgment around the third impression instead.
Also, ② cut ties quickly with anyone who gives you a bad feeling. That’s my motto when it comes to decluttering relationships, regardless of gender. “Once bitten, twice shy” is too late—when it comes to people, anything that happens once will definitely happen twice.
That’s why trust is so important.
In any case, none of this can even start unless you get an offer in the first place, though.
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The key, I think, is not to leave the site just because you’ve found a papa (a male supporter) who looks promising at first glance.
If you could tell everything from a first impression, no one would have any trouble.
That’s why people usually meet several times to get a better sense of each other. Even then, things can still turn out differently from what you expected.
A special ability that lets you see everything about someone at a glance is pretty hard to acquire.
How long does it take to master?
In my case, 40 years...
(By Yogi Parabha)
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I’ve lived with a woman I met through Universe Club.
I’ve also proposed to a woman I met there—and she said yes. I’ve been proposed to as well.
I’ve dated a lounge hostess, a men’s esthetic salon worker, a sex worker, and an adult film actress too, but the woman I met through Universe Club was by far the best.
That said, the woman doing papa-katsu and I simply grew close through mutual effort. It wasn’t because I could tell from the start that she was a good match. I’m sure my partner was suspicious of me at first too. There’s no way things are perfect right from the beginning.
Relax, and try rejoining first.
It’s a numbers game, so nothing will happen if you don’t register.
I hope you find someone wonderful.
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The ability to judge people isn’t something you can pick up overnight; I believe it’s developed through experience. If it were something you could acquire just by reading a few answers here, everyone—men and women alike—would be able to manage relationships smoothly.
Also, I think a partner’s words and actions are greatly influenced by your own. For example, I have several partners, but the extent to which each relationship is transactional differs from person to person.
I think you should also reflect on your own words and actions.
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