I’m happy to say I was able to end things with the 65-year-old papa (a male supporter)—the same age as my father—who was overweight, bald, had warts, and suffered from terrible body odor and bad breath. I also managed to get my money refunded.
After that, I received another offer from a new papa, but he was even older—68. His appearance wasn’t unpleasant, but he had an overpowering old-person smell and a face covered in age spots.
The allowance was ¥100,000 a month for a monthly arrangement with an adult relationship (intimate), four times a month. So it works out to ¥25,000 per meeting.
Maybe the allowance offered reflects my own worth, but I’m a little disappointed. I feel like I get a lot of offers from men aged 65 and over, and the allowance is always around the same level. Is this normal?
Also, for those in their early 20s around my age, how do you get past the feeling of being grossed out? I was thinking of closing my eyes and picturing a member of Snow Man that I like to get through it. If you have any other good methods, please let me know.
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You don’t have to force yourself to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
From the way you’ve written this, meeting him sounds really tough for you—you might even feel sick.
I guess that makes me one of the gross people too, for responding like this…
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If you keep receiving offers with similar terms, there may also be something on your end contributing to it.
Maybe your figure is on the smaller side, your appearance isn’t as polished, or there’s some other factor making people perceive you as someone they can lowball. (That’s just my assumption, so I’m sorry if I’m off.)
You can also filter by age as soon as you receive an offer. There’s no point meeting someone you don’t see things progressing with, so it’s perfectly fine to tell the staff, “I’d rather not meet men over the age of __.”
I think it’s best not to push yourself.
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Are you setting a minimum allowance you’re willing to accept and telling them, “I can’t do it unless the allowance is what I’m asking for”?
You can also write something like “Please be ___ or younger” in your profile, so why not include that?
Are you sure this person is actually from a club? Not an app?
It sounds like this one may become impossible partway through as well. Luckily, your previous papa (male supporter) happened to be a good person, so there were no arguments—but that can happen. If you feel uncomfortable, I think it’s better to turn them down from the start.
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I just thought of another approach.
I was once talking about papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with a woman I met through this site. She was extremely attractive and was seeing multiple people. I said it must be difficult, and she told me that when things progressed to an adult relationship (intimate), she would:
- Deliberately take out her contacts so she couldn’t see
- Deliberately avoid taking her allergy medication so she couldn’t smell anything
I couldn’t help laughing when I heard that.
Apparently, she also puts effort into acting like she’s climaxing, makes sounds, and can even tighten herself down there. She says she does this to help the papa finish quickly and reduce the burden on herself.
In a way, she’s a papa-katsu professional! Hope that helps.
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I think most women won’t take things further with someone they find unpleasant.
Since your sample size is only two, it’s hard to say for sure, but so far, I do feel there may be some bias in the men who have approached you.
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Maybe papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) just isn’t right for you.
If earning money is taking a toll on your mental health, only for it to disappear on stress relief or medical expenses—or if your mental state declines and lowers your overall quality of life—then that defeats the purpose.
If you’re unhappy with the amount offered, you can negotiate. Counter with two or three times the original offer and agree on an amount you’re comfortable with.
Something you can tolerate for generous (well-paying) compensation may be unbearable if the pay is low. Even at a regular job, working with customers you connect with can feel rewarding despite low pay, but with customers you don’t connect with, you need higher compensation to find it worthwhile.
If you keep relying on some extreme form of mental endurance, it’s going to affect you. No matter how attractive a man you imagine him to be, once things are over and you come back to reality, won’t intense self-loathing set in?
If men aged 65 and over are too much for you, why not ask the club to set an age limit on offers—say, men in their 40s or up to their 50s?
I feel you would be better off either fundamentally changing the way you think about this or, if you don’t want to do that, giving up papa-katsu.
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