Since I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’ve had more financial breathing room. However, the guilt and concern about how others see me have taken a toll on my self-esteem, and I’ve often thought about quitting. But I’ve gotten used to having an allowance, so I just can’t seem to take that step.
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Sometimes I see couples in the city who look like they’re doing papa-katsu, with nearly a 30-year age gap, and I wonder if that’s how I look too. It makes me want to quit. Are there any places where I can see lots of couples like this? And what times of day are they most commonly seen?
I’m someone who worries a lot about other people’s opinions, so I’d like to see as many papa-katsu couples as possible and strengthen my desire to quit.
Osaka, Kobe, or Kyoto would be ideal, but I’m willing to travel to Nagoya or Tokyo if necessary.
I’m sorry if this comes across as disrespectful to those of you who are currently doing papa-katsu, but I’m genuinely struggling and would be grateful for any advice.
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After reading the other respondents’ answers, I’ll share something a little more candid.
In Kansai, places such as the mountains of Hyogo and Kyoto, or Ise-Shima, often advertise that they offer privacy—and apparently attract a lot of couples like that.
I’ve heard that at condominiums, cottages, and inns with private hot-spring baths, where lodging costs at least several tens of thousands of yen per person per night, the dinner venue was visibly full of couples like that, making for an uncomfortable atmosphere.
As another bit of information, apparently the hot-spring cottage inn just past Takarazuka is also full of couples like that.
It seems there are many places that fit both factors: men tend to show off and choose somewhat expensive accommodations, while neither person wants to be seen by others.
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A while back, there was a trend where people would go to popular papa-katsu meeting spots and try to poach someone else’s date.
They’d go to the meeting spot, and if they saw a woman who looked like she might be there for papa-katsu, they’d hold their phone to their ear, wave to her, and act as if they were her actual date before taking her out.
That way, they could go on a date without paying the club’s arrangement fee or joining fee—and even meet a beautiful woman.
Could it be that you’re researching this so you can try it?
I only ask because I don’t understand the feeling of wanting to quit just from seeing all those age-gap couples in major cities.
I don’t think seeing other people would change how you feel.
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There are plenty of places around town with mirrors, so why not use one to look at the two of you while you’re doing papa-katsu?
Besides, you don’t even have to go looking—papa-katsu couples are hardly unusual these days, and there are plenty of them around. If you haven’t noticed them, that probably means no one else is paying any attention either.
There are all kinds of much stranger people out there anyway. I guess that’s what they call the age of diversity.
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Come to Ginza.
In the evenings, you’ll see couples out together all over the city—at restaurants, sushi places, and bars.
The age range is pretty much the same as in papa-katsu.
Yesterday, I went to a Ginza bar with a woman in her 20s for work. There were three couples at the five-seat counter, including Fuu: men from the papa-katsu generation with women in their 20s and 30s lol.
The atmosphere was great, and everyone looked like they were enjoying delicious food and drinks. You might even find yourself not wanting to quit anymore lol.
I’ll be waiting!
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You seem to have some time on your hands.
https://universe-club.jp/newsroom/123220/
This page lists some common meeting spots. If you’ve received a few offers, you can probably figure out the usual time slots.
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