To be honest, even if they pretend to be good papas, it doesn’t seem like there’s actually much fun in it. From a man’s perspective, selfish papas look like they’re having more fun.
Recently, I had dinner separately with two women who used to be involved in papa-katsu but have since moved on. While catching up (haha), I asked them to look back on their experiences. Even though they had both been involved in papa-katsu, their experiences and perspectives were different. However, when I asked, “What makes a papa (a male supporter) a great papa?” they gave me the same answer:
“A papa who pays well.”
That may sound painfully blunt to male members. But let’s hear a little more from them:
“Even the affairs of hell come down to money.”
“Yukichi hides a papa’s seven bad habits.”
“Yukichi can make a balding old man look attractive.”
They had some even more extreme things to say, but I’ll stop there.＼
Of course, as someone who’s still involved in papa-katsu, I tried to argue back:
“Isn’t there something beyond money—like human compatibility, or simply feeling comfortable together? Rather than sex?”
Their answers were as follows:
Woman A: “Of course there is. But when a papa feels highly satisfied, he starts trying to reduce the allowance. Far too many papas don’t realize that hearing something like that instantly kills the mood.”
Woman B: “Far too many papas say, ‘We’re so close now, so you don’t need money anymore, right?’ I wondered whether this was just a Japanese thing, so I accepted an offer from a foreigner—and he said exactly the same thing. That taught me nationality has nothing to do with it. Out of more than 150 offers, there was only one papa I wanted to see even without receiving money.”
Those are painful words for male members to hear, but they really drove home the point for me once again.
In some ways, whether you find a good papa (a male supporter) also depends on you, so from the way your question is written, it almost seems like your partner is simply reflecting you like a mirror…
I think a good papa (a male supporter) is someone you really click with.
That said, judging by this question, it seems like you’re only thinking about yourself, too.
1. Generous support
2. Consideration to ensure the woman feels as comfortable as possible
When one person enjoys giving and the other enjoys receiving, things can work out even if both are focused only on themselves, so I think compatibility is important.
