In the question below, when the older man says, “I want it now,” as soon as they enter the hotel, doesn’t he mean that he wants to get intimate right away—even in this heat—before taking a shower?

He must be the kind of fiery man who won’t shower, won’t suck up to anyone, and won’t look back! When you think of him that way, I suppose it’s kind of cool.

If simply turning it down would solve the problem, I don’t think you’d have bothered asking in the first place. If you can’t bring yourself to suggest taking a shower—or you’re not allowed to bring it up—then I think there’s a problem with the relationship itself.

How should I know? This question relates to questions posted by other female members. One part asks about—or tries to speculate on—the intentions of a male member, which only that female member herself could know. It can’t really be answered, and arguably isn’t even a proper question. The other two are phrased as requests for advice on whether the female member should refuse, or as questions/speculation about whether she’s anxious and what she’s feeling. Either way, they aren’t proper questions. Please ask an actual question. If you want to advise another female member, answer her question as a respondent instead. You can become a respondent by applying to the club. Please follow the rules.