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Jul 25, 2024 10:40
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🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’ve been doing this for over five years too, but my sex drive hasn’t declined, so it hasn’t turned into anything like that at all.
I do want to value the relationships that last a long time, though…
If you and the woman are both happy with that arrangement, I don’t see anything wrong with it. I think there’s room for all kinds of relationship styles.
You could keep things mainly supportive with her, and if you want to pursue an adult relationship more actively, you could make offers to other women.
🏅 ラッキーゴールドの探査技師
関西在住で多趣味です。
最近、筋トレにて、体重は減っていないのに、ウエストは減りまくりで、筋肉の増量と体脂肪の減量との両立を実現しております。
スタンダードクラス、ゴールドクラスで磨くと光りそうな方にオファーすることが多いです。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
Why not simply ask her whether she’d be okay with dinner only?
You could then give her an allowance for dinner only, or decide that she’s declining for her own reasons and give her the same allowance as when there’s an adult relationship, without actually having one. Isn’t that entirely up to the man?
If you start feeling interested while you’re having dinner, you could ask her then and there. Though that kind of change of heart might be a nuisance for her.
If you do what you agreed to do and pay the corresponding amount, then all you can really say is that you’re pursuing an adult relationship because you genuinely want to.
It’s pretty hard to reach the mindset of, “Whether we meet or not, I’ll support her on a monthly basis,” though. lol
🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I get it. But you’re still going through with it in the end, right? lol
The only person who could talk about it in this context and tone is someone who gives an allowance but doesn’t go that far.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
It’s perfectly fine to start out that way, and I think starting out on an even footing is fine too.
For both men and women, even if that is the main purpose, a relationship is probably healthier when it puts less emphasis on the adult relationship and the allowance.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Is whether it’s “normal” really that important to you? I think “normal” is different for everyone.
For example, some people don’t think it’s normal to date a woman while giving her an allowance.
Personally, there are times when I meet a woman I’ve only just started seeing even when I’m not particularly in the mood for sex. I do this to give her an allowance and maintain or develop the relationship.
By “not particularly in the mood,” I mean situations such as already having plans to meet another woman later that same day or the day before. Once, I somehow scheduled two dates a day for three days in a row, and it left me feeling pretty worn out.
Women often go along with their partners out of a sense of obligation, so I’m sure the reverse happens too. There’s even a term for it—“obligation sex”—so I think it’s fairly common.