When we had a hotel date, I ended up paying more than he did. He seems to be a busy person, and he’s even asked me to come to wherever he is on a business trip. He also told me I’d have to cover the expenses.
I don’t understand the mindset of someone so stingy. Does he dislike me?
I’m not entirely sure, but wouldn’t it be a bit much to call him stingy?
For example, how would you compare an allowance of 50,000 yen with the man covering the hotel versus an allowance of 100,000 yen with the hotel bill split between you?
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I’ve never had a woman pay before, so I’m not really sure what that man’s intentions are.
I see posts on social media and elsewhere saying things like “X amount, hotel fee separate” all the time, but I suppose they’re aimed at men who mistakenly think the hotel fee is included!
Since you asked about it here, I’m guessing you’re not comfortable with the situation. In that case, you should move on to a papa (a male supporter) who can at least pay the hotel fee like a gentleman♪
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From the man’s perspective, he may feel that since he’s already paying a generous allowance, she should cover her own travel expenses to his business-trip destination. And, as Fuu mentioned, if he wants to experience something that feels like a normal relationship, he may expect them to split the hotel cost.
Whether he’s being stingy depends on the amount of the allowance. As Seattle-san suggested, judge it based on your net take-home amount and the time you spend.
If the amount is small, it may be less about him disliking you and more about wanting to make you into a convenient woman who will do as he says.
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Haha, that’s funny.
I checked in for the first time in a while, and it looks like something pretty interesting happened.
Anyway, enjoy it. As long as you’re still getting invitations, it’s probably safe to assume they don’t dislike you.
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He doesn’t dislike you.
But there’s no doubt he’s stingy.
Calculate the allowance minus the hotel cost, then judge it based on the time-to-money ratio and hourly rate.
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These days, I hear that boyfriends and friends with benefits usually split the bill.
If you’re paying for the hotel yourself in your papa-katsu arrangement, then if you’re unhappy with that, why not just end things?
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Wait, there are really papas like that?
If he wants you to come all the way to where he’s on a business trip, he probably doesn’t dislike you, though.
He’s so cheap, it’s unbelievable!
Definitely a “goodbye” situation ♡
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There’s no background information, so it’s hard to say, and it’s not really my business anyway. I don’t know whether he’s simply stingy, but while he probably wouldn’t spend time on someone he dislikes, it doesn’t seem like he considers this an important relationship.
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