Tomorrow, I have my second date with a man in his 70s, and it’s supposed to be my first adult relationship (intimate). We’re planning to have dinner and go to a hotel, and I’m expecting an allowance of ¥50,000.
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I’ve been doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) through an app, where I usually received ¥30,000, so part of me is happy. But I’m starting to feel scared because I can’t really imagine being intimate with a man older than my own father.
I’m wondering whether I should cancel tomorrow. From the answers I’ve read here, many people say you shouldn’t force yourself if you don’t want to do it, but what would you do? Would you follow your true feelings?
Also, if I do go through with the adult relationship (intimate), would someone in his 70s still expect penetration or oral sex? Part of me is curious because it’s something I’ve never experienced, but I really can’t imagine it（笑）. I’d appreciate hearing your opinions.
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Even past their 70s, oral sex is still on the table, and penetration happens too.
I’ve even had a gentleman in his 90s say he wanted penetration. Of course, I helped him get aroused with oral sex, but I couldn’t go as far as penetration.
Men in their 40s and 50s are often still very energetic, so they may ask for a second or even third time. Those in their 60s and 70s, however, usually finish after once.
(Though I’m sure there are exceptions.)
If you’re really not comfortable with it, it’s disrespectful to the other person, so turn them down as soon as possible.
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Once you’ve made a commitment, canceling now would be inconsiderate and a waste of time.
You should at least give it a try once. If you don’t like it, you can simply choose not to meet again.
If it’s a minor issue that seems fixable, try pointing it out gently. If they won’t listen, just don’t arrange another meeting.
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You can imagine it, right? The basic thing you’d be doing is the same, after all. If anything, you can even imagine having H with 95-year-old Mickey Mouse.
I get the “wanting to see something scary” motivation, too. There’s nothing wrong with that being your reason（笑）
It’s best to try things at least once. I hesitated at first with shirako ponzu because it looked gross, but it was delicious when I tried it.
That said, as Meg says, you don’t have to force yourself. Meet him, have a meal, and if you’re not feeling it, just say no. I’m sure he’ll understand.
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Everyone in their 70s is doing very well. Of course, they do come looking for the full arrangement.
There are also papas who don’t immediately expect things to go all the way and take the time to see how you feel.
If you think it might be too much for you, it’s perfectly okay to turn them down.
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I’m almost 70 now, and the woman I’m seeing has just entered her late twenties, I think (lol).
We started seeing each other when she was around 20, so I suppose the circumstances are a little different, but basically, things are still the same between us (lol).
When you meet her, go in with the possibility of turning her down depending on how you feel about her in person.
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