I recently started seeing a woman who was introduced to me through a club, but she later told me that she is married. She says she is currently in divorce negotiations and living separately from her spouse, but I still feel there are risks involved.

Lately, I’ve mostly been reaching out to women who are looking for a Type B arrangement, so I don’t ask about that directly, but I’ll proceed carefully. To be honest, I’m not considering an arrangement with someone who’s married. By the way, I’m single.

Aren’t you married yourself? If it bothers you that the woman you’re seeing is married, why not end things and approach another single woman instead?

You’re talking conveniently about “risk” and “support,” but aren’t you really only thinking about yourself? In this situation, the one taking on the risk isn’t you—it’s the woman. For someone in the middle of divorce negotiations, a romantic relationship is the worst possible thing to have used against her. The best support you can offer right now would be things like introducing her to a lawyer experienced in divorce, or providing behind-the-scenes support so she won’t be disadvantaged if the matter goes to mediation. Personally, I don’t think continuing a romantic relationship is an option. That is, if you truly care about her. If you’re going to date a married person, you need to be extremely careful not to get caught—and even if evidence is obtained, never admit to anything and continue denying it completely. I think you have to be that thorough. It’s me.