If the frequency hasn’t decreased, I think they’re simply optimizing their time.
For example, if the conversation over dinner is boring but the intimacy is good, the time spent eating gradually gets shorter (lol).
Of course, the woman’s preferences and requests matter too, so I wouldn’t shorten it unilaterally. But I’d gradually cut it down as long as there were no complaints.
If I wanted to continue seeing her, I’d try to find a date pattern that would be enjoyable for both of us, including figuring out what topics make dinner conversation lively.
If there’s something she cares about even though I don’t particularly enjoy it, I’ll go along with it for the time being. But if the hassle starts to outweigh the parts I enjoy about seeing her, that can become a reason to end the relationship.
With a dating club, there’s often an aspect of settling things by giving money—leaving no debts or obligations—so I feel that relationships are often ended without the kinds of doubts, frustrations, or misunderstandings that tend to surface while building a relationship ever coming to light.
If it’s a relationship you want to cherish and you have any frustrations or concerns, it might be better to bring them up directly with the other person. Sometimes people only realize certain things when they’re told.
In the past, when I was starting to feel that a relationship might have run its course, she brought up something like that, and we properly faced the issue together.
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