Going along to a business meeting, going as a companion in Ginza, or even pretending to be parent and child, lol.
It’s not like everyone is doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), after all.
I understand why women would rather not hold hands in public—it can be uncomfortable.
That said, it’s also a hassle having to make excuses if someone you know sees you, so personally, if it’s more than five minutes from the restaurant to the hotel, I take a taxi. Even if it’s within five minutes, I might still take one if she’s wearing high heels.
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If you’re considering papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it’s important to think about how emotionally detached you can be from the arrangement.
If the risk of being recognized by someone you know is low, walking around together can be part of the service.
It’s overthinking things to assume that any man and woman with a noticeable age gap who are walking together must be doing papa-katsu.
For example, hostesses have long gone on dates outside the club for promotional purposes.
These days, there are even services where you can rent a girlfriend.
The only women who insist on keeping everything inside the hotel are those who are extremely worried about being recognized by someone they know.
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I’m voting for Paper Airplane!
I don’t go out much, but once we’ve been seeing each other for a while, she starts casually taking off her mask in public. I’m the one going, “Please don’t!”
She also tells me not to take mine off.
Why? So papa-katsu women won’t come up to me, apparently, haha.
Just a little bragging, haha.
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It might be possible for a man and woman whose relationship revolves almost entirely around the allowance and an adult relationship (intimate).
But if their main goal is not just going out, visiting different places, and enjoying various activities, but also enjoying the relationship itself, I don’t think that would happen.
When we first met, there was a woman in her early 20s who said she couldn’t even walk side by side with me in busy downtown areas. As we grew closer, perhaps because we enjoyed sightseeing on trips without worrying about what people around us thought, she gradually stopped caring even locally. Now we can walk together naturally, even being quite physically affectionate, and she introduces me to family and friends without hesitation. I’m amazed at how much things can change depending on how deep the relationship and level of trust become…
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I’ve met more than 100 women, and only one of them ever insisted on keeping everything inside the hotel. I’ve also met someone who was extremely afraid of running into people she knew, but after a few months of seeing each other, she was comfortable going out together.
Most of the women I offer to are around their thirties. So I think it’s fair to say that almost all women in their twenties or thirties who are willing to walk around and go out to eat with an older man can do so.
If it bothers you that much, you may be better off giving up on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
This is about another dating club, but profiles of women who are reasonably well-known idols, gravure models, or influencers sometimes include notes like, “Please keep meals in the hotel room as well.”
If you’re the kind of person the questioner is referring to, then this answer may not apply. However, even among women in the entertainment industry, more don’t have such a note than do.
Personally, though, I think it’s perfectly fine to keep everything inside the hotel.
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