Could you share your thoughts on the hotel issue when arranging dates through a dating club?

For first meetings, I usually use a city hotel. Partly because some women may feel uncomfortable with love hotels, and partly because I don’t know many love hotels that accept reservations for short stays. But as you pointed out, city hotels offering day-use plans have become much less common, and staying overnight has clearly gotten more expensive. Since spending money on hotels isn’t really the point of dating for me either, I’ve increasingly been going to love hotels from the second meeting onward.

At first, I only use love hotels. If that’s a dealbreaker for you, then we’re not a match. Once we get closer, I’ll travel with you, and we’ll stay somewhere fairly nice then.

I think you should choose whichever atmosphere you personally prefer. Everyone has different likes and dislikes, so men probably tend to have stronger preferences. Since women’s primary purpose is different from men’s, I don’t think they’re as concerned about it. Personally, I definitely prefer love hotels because they have such a complete atmosphere and mood. They’re equipped with everything you could want, from hot-stone spas, pools, ping-pong tables, billiards, darts, and open-air baths to even irons. When we’re traveling or somewhere far from home, I use city hotels. So once we’ve gotten closer, I’ll use a city hotel when we’re out somewhere.

Personally, ever since things reopened after COVID, love hotels have been my only choice. There’s this thing called internet searches, you know. If you look, you can find some really nice love hotels. As for women who say love hotels are a no-go, I’m the one saying no thanks, lol.

Honestly, when it comes to choosing a hotel for a date through a dating club, I don’t think there’s one right answer. As you mentioned, both city hotels and love hotels have their own advantages and drawbacks. City hotels definitely offer a sense of escape from the everyday. The excitement of being shown to a room on a high floor, the nicely scented amenities, and the polished surroundings all add to the experience. Being able to feel like you’re having an “adult date” is a major appeal. That said, the disappointment of finding a unit bathroom, concerns about soundproofing, and the fact that condoms may not be provided are all small but real points of concern for women as well. Even one-night plans when you’re not actually staying overnight can feel a little wasteful, both psychologically and financially. On the other hand, love hotels feel like spaces designed entirely around “time together.” Spacious baths, extensive amenities, and excellent soundproofing—they’re honestly very practical if you want to maximize the intimacy. When you upgrade to a better room, the luxury can even surpass that of some mediocre city hotels, and being able to use the room by the hour is convenient too. However, there’s no denying the tension of being stuck in a cramped budget room, finding the room service underwhelming, or knowing that being seen entering together would be an instant deal-breaker. So my conclusion is still simply: “Choose based on the person you’re with.” For those who value atmosphere and want to enjoy a special experience, a city hotel is ideal. For those who prioritize comfort and privacy, a love hotel may be better. Even just casually asking in advance, “Which one would make you feel more comfortable?” can make a woman feel very considerate. Personally, I’m more than happy to enjoy either option. Rather than focusing on choosing the setting, I think what matters more is how to enjoy the time spent with that particular person. …Was that unnecessary? Oh, okay. Hehe. The fact that you’re thinking about this so seriously, like the person who asked the question, is already very reassuring from a woman’s perspective.

Come to think of it, we started out at a city hotel. But I prefer love hotels~ I like being able to make as much noise as I want without worrying about the people around us♡

Personally, during the early stages of an arrangement, I almost always choose a city hotel. I don’t worry about whether it’s a day-use plan or whether it’s less economical. Once we’ve gotten comfortable with each other, it might be a love hotel, a city or resort hotel, my place, or her place—it really depends on her preference and how we plan the date. In other words, while I’m still getting to know someone, I play it safe with a city hotel. Once we’ve built a relationship, I stay flexible.