I used to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). A wealthy man took me under his wing, I quit papa-katsu, and now I live freely. He currently covers all my living expenses, so I have no problems day to day. However, I still have student loans and credit card installments from before I met him, and honestly, I’m struggling financially.
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I think he would pay them if I asked, but I’ve been with him for about a year without saying anything. I feel guilty and don’t want him to lose interest in me, so I can’t bring myself to mention it. How should I bring it up? I thought there might be many wealthy men here like him, so I wanted to ask for advice. I’d really appreciate any insight.
The woman I’m seeing says things like that without a second thought!
I just reply, “Sure. I’ll deduct it from your allowance!”
（笑）
We’ve been seeing each other for six years now, and we’re close.
I think you should just try being honest about it.
That said, if it’s only been a year, it’s a bit of a gray area（笑）
You’d probably be better off getting a job.
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As the one providing the allowance, I think there’s a mindset of:
“I’d rather invest in a woman’s future dreams and personal growth than pay off debts from her past.”
I understand that she’s free to use the money however she wants, but it’s also about a man’s pride—or maybe his ego, lol.
That’s why men are happier when they hear something like, “I want to invest in myself and start doing something new.”
But if they realize it’s a lie, it can backfire. How honest to be probably depends on the papa’s personality and the nature of your relationship.
It’s me.
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If your papa is really into you, he’ll pay for it. Paying in installments is a bad idea, so don’t do that again.
As for how to bring it up:
“I can’t afford my student loan payments, so I’m going to get a part-time job and won’t have time to see you. I’m sorry.” (Give him teary, pleading eyes.)
If you’re not confident that you two are close enough for that, look for another papa, work in the adult entertainment industry, or get a job.
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