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Feb 12, 2024 16:23
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A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
If it was agreed from the start that things would only go as far as foreplay, I might be okay with it.
However, if we had always gone all the way before and he suddenly asked to limit things to foreplay from next time on, I think I’d end the arrangement.
I’d feel at least somewhat rejected.
Just like negotiating an increase in the allowance, this would probably be a pretty difficult conversation to have.
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
If you’ve been having an adult relationship up until now,
then of course he’ll probably end things.
If it hurts and you don’t want to go that far,
you could skip the foreplay too
and make it dinner-only papa-katsu.
Doing everything up to foreplay but not being able to go all the way
would just leave him hanging, wouldn’t it? lol
If dinner-only papa-katsu is too difficult,
why not try compensated social drinking instead?
👨 Male
Universe member
I joined with the intention of pursuing an intimate relationship.
At first, the woman I’m seeing now was only interested in dinner dates. Perhaps she gave up on the idea of dating me if it was going to be limited to just foreplay? She seemed reluctant at first, but we ended up seeing each other anyway（笑）
It’s been six years since we started meeting every other week. These days, she comes to see me with a smile, clearly looking forward to it（笑）
I don’t know what the person you’re seeing is like, but why not talk things over and see whether you can compromise and whether they’re willing to meet you halfway?
If they’re someone you can’t compromise with, it may be okay to let the relationship come to an end.
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Other
If you can offer your current papas value beyond an adult relationship, they won’t drop you.
But even if you can, if their only goal is an adult relationship, they probably will.
Actually, if you’re not okay with an adult relationship, wouldn’t it be better to choose Dating Type A and also say no to foreplay?
Since foreplay can lead to an adult relationship, it’s probably best to eliminate anything that could serve as a stepping stone toward one.
It also works as a filter to keep guys who are only looking for sex away. And wouldn’t it reduce your stress if those kinds of papas dropped you?
— It’s me.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
What he does will likely depend on how much you mean to him, as well as on what you suggest doing together.