Tips
Feb 5, 2024 16:44
This content is machine-translated.
I’ve only been doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for about a month, so there’s still a lot I don’t know. Since Valentine’s Day is coming up, I’d really appreciate everyone’s opinions.
I’m planning to meet three papas around Valentine’s Day.
① A papa I’m very close with and see about once a week
He likes sweets.
→ I’m thinking of getting him some chocolate with a budget of around ¥5,000. Since he seems to have a family, I’m considering something small enough for him to finish in one sitting.
② A papa I’ll be meeting for the second time
During our first date, I noticed that he avoided cake. Judging from his manner, I got the impression that he was being mindful of his health.
→ I haven’t decided on either the budget or what to give him yet.
③ A papa I’ll be meeting for the first time
→ I haven’t decided on either the budget or what to give him yet. Rather than a Valentine’s gift, I’m thinking of giving him something more like a small gift for our first meeting.
That’s where things stand.
I’m not worried about what to give ① aside from the budget, but I’m really unsure what to give ② and ③.
Should I avoid chocolate? Or since I won’t be seeing them on Valentine’s Day itself, should I just pretend Valentine’s Day isn’t happening? (I understand that it would probably be better to give them something.) I don’t want to burden or inconvenience them, though…
Those are the things I’ve been going back and forth over.
Sorry for the long post, but I’d love to hear your thoughts—including suggestions for appropriate budgets—from all the kind people who made it this far.
2 answers
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Even if it were options ② or ③, I’d still be genuinely happy to receive it because it’s the thought that counts.
I’m limiting my carb intake, but I’m not so uptight that I’d turn down something given with genuine feeling.
As for the budget, it’s not about the amount. I can buy as much expensive chocolate as I want myself.
🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Honestly, I find it a hassle to think about return gifts, so I’d rather not receive anything.
For ①, something simple that doesn’t make them feel obligated would be best. It can be even cheaper.
I don’t think ② or ③ are necessary, but if you’re hoping for something in return, give them something simple. Even a letter would be fine.