Actually, thanks to the influence of the media and social media, society has been becoming “a nation of people with developmental disorders” over the past few years. So rather than the number actually increasing, I think more people have simply started wondering, “Maybe I’m neurodivergent?”
I was diagnosed a few years ago myself—I’m autistic and pretty maladjusted to society.
Like Ryūnosuke Akutagawa, I’ve always felt a vague sense of anxiety, or just that life was difficult, but meeting my current papas has made things a little easier. An understanding boyfriend (older man) is the best.
One of my low-paying papas once told me, “⚪︎⚪︎←my name is socially maladjusted,” but we’re now in our seventh year together, with him saying things like, “I’m the only one who could stay with you this long, right?”
With my other generous papa, my Asperger’s tendencies often made him absolutely furious, and we had some truly explosive arguments. Then I became depressed, got a younger boyfriend, and said things like, “I don’t want to travel with you anymore.”
That made him say, “You’ve been suffering this much because of me… So I just need to understand your developmental disorder better, right?” Since then, he’s become incredibly kind to me. He’s also increased my allowance, so I’m accepting it as compensation for emotional damages.
I can’t speak for ADHD, but I think women with ASD are fairly good at papa-katsu. Aren’t a lot of them good at taking care of their papas, too?
I feel like things often work out for me because my cheeky comments and inability to read the atmosphere create this wonderful misunderstanding: that I’m selfish, naturally clueless, impossible to understand, prone to emotional breakdowns, seemingly unable to survive without his support, yet always willing to face his feelings sincerely.
I’ve met women who seemed to jump to conclusions way too quickly.
Maybe she has a developmental disability too? Haha.
Or maybe it was because, in her eyes, I was an old geezer she couldn’t stand looking at. Haha.
When you say “recently,” do you mean over the past few years or the past few months?
I don’t feel that way myself.
That said, I do get the impression that many people who post questions seem to be dealing with issues that go beyond concerns about dating itself.
