I’m the papa involved in the allowance issue that’s been causing a stir. Yesterday, I found this site and discovered that my monthly partner had apparently written about us. As she wrote, I’ve also started wondering whether she’s only living with her boyfriend out of habit. It seems they’ve been without intimacy for over a month, and when we met last time, things were extremely passionate.
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Throughout our conversations, she’s said things suggesting that she’s willing to put up with housework and having no money for the sake of her handsome boyfriend. I wondered whether that contradicted her doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but I deliberately kept quiet.
My instinct as a man to pursue women isn’t being satisfied, but as a man, it feels good to be wanted by someone who’s starved for intimacy.
I’m stuck in what you might call a situation where my body is fulfilled but my heart isn’t. Should I continue this monthly arrangement?
Since her boyfriend doesn’t take her out to eat, our dates have consisted of repeating the same pattern: dinner at an upscale restaurant, intimacy at a city hotel, and then parting ways.
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Just like Seattle-san, things have gotten fun now that the witty comebacks have arrived. I’d love to enjoy the rest of the story, if possible.
That said, the “to be or not to be” question wasn’t funny at all. I’m putting aside the fact that I’m an old guy too, but I wanted to say, “Come on, man, you should be able to decide something like that yourself.”
Please make us laugh with some fresh material.
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Expecting everything is a bit greedy, haha.
I think you should make your decision based on the overall picture.
Personally, I don’t have particularly high expectations of the women I date, including their looks. If I feel that she’s making an effort to meet me halfway in terms of her appearance, clothing, and attitude, I’d probably continue seeing her.
In life, ideals and reality don’t always line up easily. But if you can find common ground and get along, you won’t drift apart anytime soon, haha.
So I think it’s best to continue seeing each other wherever you can both compromise.
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If you’re asking this question after reading that, perhaps you should consider continuing.
I take it to mean that you’re willing to accept even contradictions and people who don’t like you.
That said, I don’t think there’s any point in continuing if it leaves you feeling unfulfilled. If you can, I think both the papa (male supporter) and the woman would be better off quitting.
As the person asking this question, I don’t think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) can be meaningful for you unless you learn how to be liked—not just by this particular woman, but by women in general. Since aging only brings more decline, I think it’s also important to work on changing yourself.
However, someone who seems like the worst possible partner to others may be a good match for you. There’s a saying that the more trouble a child causes, the more lovable they are—and that fools are lovable too. So I suppose that’s something only the people involved can truly understand. If this Q&A helped you understand everything about each other, it could also be an opportunity to deepen your relationship.
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Whether you continue or not is a matter of how you feel. Please decide that for yourself.
If it were me, I might continue when I didn’t have many other partners. But right now, I’m having good sex with a woman who genuinely cares about me, so I have no need for it.
Also, if what you’re looking for is to satisfy your hunting instinct, I think using a dating club is missing the point.
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It feels like a back-and-forth between a sushi chef and a cabaret hostess—thanks for the fun question.
Let’s keep it going. For us older guys, the best part is enjoying intimacy.
I’m sometimes sad that I can’t compete with younger men, but I was young once too, and time treats everyone equally. I just have to accept that and come to terms with it.
Yukichi really is a wonderful ticket that transcends time. Soon, he’ll be replaced by Eiichi.
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