I want to get back the part of myself I lost through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).

Whether you put yourself down or feel good about yourself depends on your own perspective. What does “normal” even mean? What’s normal for you might not be normal for someone else. If you feel it’s wrong, then I think you should quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). But what a shame—you could just enjoy it instead.

Whether you put yourself down or choose to like yourself depends on your own perspective. What does “normal” even mean? What feels normal to you might not be normal to someone else. If you feel it’s wrong, then I think you should quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). What a shame, though. You should just enjoy papa-katsu.

Please work at a demanding factory.

I think the first step is to quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). As women get older, their market value in the papa-katsu market tends to decline. You can’t do papa-katsu forever, so now may be the right time to quit. You might also want to work on the following: ① Learn to distinguish between them Sexual relationships between men and women include marriage, romantic relationships, papa-katsu, mistresses, and prostitution (including some forms of the adult entertainment industry). Things get complicated when you bring what’s considered normal in papa-katsu into a romantic relationship—where both people have feelings for each other and money generally isn’t involved. Papa-katsu is a form of simulated romance involving money, so it isn’t the same as a relationship with a romantic partner. It’s also different from prostitution, where once someone pays, the woman has no right to refuse. Reading books that seriously examine papa-katsu may help clarify these distinctions. ② Stop taking things for granted Your papa (a male supporter) probably won’t appreciate it if you act as though being treated is only natural. Show gratitude. Being able to express appreciation is good for you, too. Have you started taking everything for granted? If you assume that being alive, eating delicious food, and being cared for by others are all just givens, you won’t find much joy in everyday life. For example, someone who only feels happy when buying or receiving luxury-brand items has only a few moments of happiness each year, and may eventually develop a shopping addiction. Why not start by viewing the things you take for granted as blessings? People who take everything for granted are often arrogant, lacking in popularity, and only concerned with the moment. I hope the person asking this question hasn’t become like that.

> I feel like you’ve changed. > → It’s probably just your imagination. I believe you’ve always been that way. > And I’m honestly surprised by your ulterior motive—trying to ask questions without using even a drop of your own brain just because it’s free.

Rather than trying to regain the heart you lost, you can simply add to the heart you have now. I think it’s best to blend the sensitivity you had before papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with the sensitivity you have today. That’s what being an adult is all about（笑） Inside だて◎ゆめ’s heart, all kinds of things have already become a complete mess, and even I’m not really sure what’s genuine anymore（笑） Even so, I believe the cries of my heart in each moment are the real me. Sometimes I feel terribly embarrassed, so I dress my naked self in clothes and go out into the city with my head held high（笑） Please give it a try. I think you’ll start to see a whole new world.

Regardless of whether they’re the opposite sex, other people’s kindness usually comes with some ulterior motive. Even when they don’t expect anything in return, they’re doing it because it makes them feel good. Since it’s natural for people to have ulterior motives, I think you should simply be grateful for what they do for you, regardless of those motives.