Ideally, I’d like a papa who provides more than enough financial support and has a genuinely great personality.
- Also, is there any way to spot in advance a papa who probably won’t be into weird things?
The last papa I got an offer from and parted ways with the same day offered a generous allowance and didn’t seem like a bad person, but during sex he was annoyingly reluctant to finish and was really tedious. I’d like to be able to tell before going to a hotel.
Any advice would be appreciated.
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When it comes to what happens in the hotel, you can’t tell from looks alone whether a man is good or bad in bed.
Checking his fingernails is pretty much essential, though.
Any man whose white nail tips are clearly visible before getting intimate with a woman is probably terrible in bed.
That’s about all you can tell in advance.
But women are the same—you won’t know until you undress them and try caressing them.
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This is Higashino from the Osaka branch of Universe Club.
・My ideal papa would provide more than enough financial support and have an amazing personality.
→ Why not cultivate a papa who provides more than enough financial support and has a wonderful personality?
(Though I don’t think cultivating one is easy, so you’ll need to put in plenty of effort as well!)
・Is there any way to tell in advance whether a papa is unlikely to be into unusual activities?
→ I imagine people tend to keep their preferences hidden, so it’s quite difficult to tell in advance. But even a papa who provides more than enough financial support and has a fantastic personality might love unusual activities!
I think it comes down to what matters most to you. If you find someone you don’t want to let go of despite certain things you dislike, then—as Seattle-san suggested—it may be best to “reform” him.
I hope this helps♪
Best regards!
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Thanks for the question. I’ll answer as well.
For you, the conditions for an ideal papa are:
1. “He provides more than enough financial support.”
2. “He has an absolutely wonderful personality.”
Based on these alone, I think you can probably identify whether he’s a good papa before going to a hotel.
It seems your concern is that you’re also becoming bothered by his “slow, drawn-out way of holding back from finishing.” Put another way, you’re looking for:
3. “Someone who finishes quickly.”
Adding this third condition will probably reduce the number of papas who meet your requirements.
It may come down to how you look at it. If you decide that someone is a good papa as long as he meets conditions 1 and 2, then condition 3 may stop bothering you. In fact, that might make you happier.
However, if condition 3 is something you absolutely can’t compromise on, trying to determine it in advance would probably be more difficult, since it’s not something you can easily know. In that case, it may be better to choose someone by going to a hotel with him once and finding out.
That said, men who provide “more than enough financial support” are probably also looking for a woman who can provide them with more than enough emotional support—including satisfying their sexual needs. So the moment you make condition 3 a requirement, there’s a good chance you may no longer be the kind of woman they’re looking for.
Keeping that in mind, I think it would be best to consider where you can compromise in order to be happy.
“Some people may come to see as painful the very thing you consider peaceful.”
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Weren’t you able to see the male member’s rating when you received the offer?
I imagine someone with a five-star rating has met a lot of women, but probably has very few negative reviews.
I’m not sure whether they’ll tell you, but you could ask the staff when you receive an offer whether he has good feedback.
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There’s no foolproof way to tell, so your options are either to accept lots of offers and decide after one or two dates, or just trust your gut.
You have to compromise somewhere. If your standards are too high, you probably won’t even be able to start an arrangement.
By the way, how can you tell which women will be sweet and satisfying in an adult relationship, without making their money-first attitude obvious before heading to the hotel? lol
→ There’s no specific way to know that, right? lol
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All the women at the club are wonderful. Popular women also tend to meet only good papas.
Good women attract good men, and good men attract good women.
I believe everything ultimately depends on you.
It’s also important not to associate with people who are always complaining.
That said:
> My ideal papa would provide more than enough financial support and have the best personality.
From a man’s perspective, a woman like that is the worst.
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Of course, whether someone is a good person at heart matters, but when it comes to financial support, things may also depend on how attractive the other person—in other words, you—are to them. So I think it’s a very difficult question.
In my case as well, the amount of financial support varies depending on the person. If I feel that I want to value someone, I naturally become more generous. If I don’t feel that way, the amount is smaller. I think it’s generally something that varies from person to person. (Of course, some men may offer the same terms to everyone.)
That’s why I think the best shortcut is to become a wonderful person—someone others will want to cherish. This may not really answer your question, but ultimately, perhaps it creates a cycle where, if you become a wonderful person, wonderful people will take an interest in you. Even as I wrote this answer, I felt it was also a reminder to myself.
That said, as a basic matter, it’s difficult to judge whether someone is a good person simply from a first meeting. You may have to look for things in their behavior and conversation, such as:
- Whether they’re considerate toward restaurant staff
- Whether they’re considerate toward women they’re meeting for the first time
- Whether they have any strange fixations or try to impose their views on others
Even I find it difficult to make a complete judgment after just a one- or two-hour meal, so I struggle with this too. I think you can’t really know until you’ve met several people.
I’m sorry this answer may not have been very helpful. I hope you find a wonderful papa (a male supporter). Best of luck!
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Good question (lol). It’s something everyone—not just women in these arrangements—wants to know.
First:
・How can you tell whether someone is a good papa (a male supporter)?
Avoid the overly handsome ones.
Don’t let it show how much allowance you want.
Don’t give any indication that you want to shorten the date.
Write these three points on your palm and check them repeatedly during the meal. If you do that, you’ll be able to judge whether the man in front of you is an ideal supporter or not. Give it a try.
・Is there a way to tell in advance whether a papa is unlikely to be into unusual things in bed?
During the conversation, look for signs of a persistent, pushy attitude when it comes to intimacy. Pay attention to whether his words have a clingy undertone, and whether his gaze is focused mainly on your chest and waist. That should help you judge whether he’s likely to want unusual things.
If, when they first meet, both people seem to be observing each other and cautiously feeling one another out, it’s probably safe to assume they’re similar people, both looking for a good dating partner.
I’d say that sounds like a good match (lol).
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The key is whether he’s the kind of man who’s willing to listen.
That said, no man is perfect. If being intimate for a long time hurts, it may be quicker to be honest—but a little coy about it—and help him improve rather than trying to find someone perfect from the start.
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